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If I were you I’d be careful about just turning up at the exes house. Maybe write a polite letter or email to them .
You can get court fees waived or reduced . Have a look at this
https://www.gov.uk/get-help-with-court-fees
If you just turn up you open the door for her to say your harassing her , trespassing etc . You may think it’s reasonable but if she says otherwise and reports it you could be back at square one . The absence of a non mol etc doesn’t mean you’re free to just turn up ...
Can’t get arrested for it though can I?
I don’t really want anyone poking into my finances if you know what I mean. Just managed to get 12k of unpaid maintenance written off for my other kids. She hasn’t put in a claim for the baby.
If I only get supervised contact will she have to pay half for the contact centre? Because I don’t pay maintenance, if I start paying for a contact centre will they say I could use that money for maintence? It’s all about money with her.
Doubt you’d be arrested . If she called her police they’d prob just warn you she’s made a complaint in the 1st instance so long as all you did was be polite and knock on the door etc
Sorry don’t know about the contact centre . Don’t think she’s have to pay though .
No, she won't be expected to pay for the contact centre, that will be a cost to you. I really wouldn't turn up on her doorstep, if she does call the police, then you are giving yourself potential problems if you go through the court for contact, and you really need to make it hard for her to paint you in a negative light.
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