Just a quickie, The fedra hearing has been set for a few weeks time and I was wondering is there any point in going for 50/50 shared care in reality I couldn't have my daughter any more than I do as it's currently 60/40 I've sort of got it in my head to try and get a concrete order which states the above but I was thinking if the judge says theres no point as I've got PR and the arrangements we already have have been working for the past 18 months.
My ex has finally got SS on her case and they are making regular visits and my EX seems to have sorted her s**t out finally and obviously she doesnt want to go to court again, I didn't intentionally make her wear the shoe on the other foot but it does seem like it has hit her where it hurts and made her realise what a cow bag she was with contact with our girl she just wants everything to go back to normal which it pretty much has.
I was just wondering if it's worth going back to court?
many thanks in advanced
Slim π
the question is what would you achieve by going back to court - it does seem to me that nothing would be gained at the moment by doing so except to create ill-feeling.
Honestly, I would leave as is Slim, especially if she's getting her act together and SS are on her case. It might just make things worse all over again?
Yup exactly what I thought she is actually really cool about anything she just wants everything to go back to normal she will agree to what ever I want in court just to get it over and done with but at the end of the day she's owned up to everything and she's finally getting help after 8 years of being basically ill with certain addictions as I said when I got custody of our girl it shocked the living daylights out of her it she didn't see our girl for 5 days and it nearly broke her so I don't like to admit it and I never intended it to happen but we're even stevens now and she's realised what it was like for me when she stopped me seeing our girl for 10 long months.
At the end of the day I have got a rock solid order from when the judge reversed the decision of our girl been in my care which states I am to have fri-sun/mon every week from last week until she starts school when it will change to every sat tea time to sun/mon and 2 nights through the week for tea and basically go back to normal and that's all the ex wants.
I've just landed THE biggest opportunity of my career, I'm moving and I defo don't need anymore court and above all the good which came out of this was that my girl got to spend a whole week with my family whilst on holiday who she never sees the kid had the best time of her life so too my family whilst I sorted out the courts so the kid is none the wiser π
I'll write a letter to the judge and cancel my application he really was a sound fellow and looking back really fought my corner against her solicitor which came in handy lol
Many thanks
Slim π
I would certainly tell him that the two of you have resolved all issues before going to court - they like to hear that, and if you ever do need to go back, he will hopefully realise it must be pretty serious for you to do so.