I can't take anymore of all this pure lies and false allegations keeping my daughter away from me knowing it hurts me cos she my world,, I had another daughter she was 19 but sadly died in January last year of secondary bone cancer and now my EX is putting me threw [censored] with my little girl,, Molestation orders all rubbish,,any help
Hello DJBMUFC7,
Oh my goodness, how I feel for you!
I am absolutely sure there will be lots of help from other people and the moderators on here.
I am not sufficiently knowledgeable to guide you through the court processes you may need to go through to gain access to your daughter. If there are no safeguarding and / or welfare issues you should be granted a Court Order stipulating days and time including sleepovers and holidays when you can have access to your daughter. It need not be costly to go to court as many fathers represent themselves successfully. Mediation has to be attempted first but in many cases it does not work and then it is straight to court.
The ideal is for parents to work amicably together for the sake of the child/ren but in your case it sounds a very doubtful option.
What I would strongly advise is that you do not contact the mother at present as you may leave yourself open to false allegations as you are understandable extremely upset and justifiably so. Keep a diary, all emails and texts she may send you as these can be used against her if they contain false accusations towards you. They can also give a good insight as to her behaviour.
Please keep posting.
Hi There,
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You have been through a truamaitic time and I would imagine you are all over the palce, what I would advise is before doing anything else, start looking after yourself, go to your GP and ask for help.
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We can help you through this with advice and guidence but if you aren't in a strong enough place yourself then you are going to struggle.
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See your GP and ask for help, we can also help you throughout with support and somewhere to talk.
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Keep replying to us and we will see what we can do to help you.
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GTTS
I second speaking with your GP to make sure that you are as okay as can be. It might also be a good idea to attend a Families Need Fathers meeting in your area. You will be able to get face to face support and meet other parents.
Ultimately, with Non-Molestation orders etc, you will find it difficult to attend mediation which would be the first step before a court application.
Keep posting and we will do everything we can to help you.
