[Solved] SUCCESS STORIES!

Here’s Diamonds story... a successful challenge to false allegations. Great work Diamond!

https://www.dad.info/forum/legal-eagle/51161-all-allegations-dismissed-non-mol-dropped

Right- thought I'd give an update on my situation:
Baby born in July 2017, initial contact, private DNA done and started giving maintenance. Oct 2017, babys mother stops contact, disappears and not located (in new area 2 hours drive away) until Sept 2018- Police involved, no further action, allegations of DV made.
I had a non molestation order served on me in Sept last year- I contested this the week later (she turned up with barrister, solicitor, someone from church a DV counsellor and minute taker). I said to Judge I would rather not have the counsellor sit in court after being asked if I minded.
I've been self representing (my job involves criminal Law, so I have an idea of court process, know how to give/produce evidence, produce statements, etc) and am proud to say I have not spent a penny on Legal assistance.
December appearance in Family court saw her make allegations I broke the order- final hearing put off till Feb.
Feb appearance saw accusations against friends and family as well as more dates in which I broke the order- Costs awarded to me, although I dropped the ball by saying I will pay for a court approved DNA test (Judge would've likely split it both ways)- £500 to do a new test. £400 for DNA clinic and £100 to her GP.
She now changes solicitor (she moved), changes GP. Re appeared in March, new statements from family and friends- she gave witness evidence (character assassination) and this final hearing was now extended after the whole day involved her talking.
April the Final hearing (finally)- I took the stand and gave evidence, my exhibits included contactless bank statements, travel evidence and other related things that put me in another city (where I reside) and not spying/staking/harassing her. The Judge did his fact finding and all 17 allegations against me were dismissed. A contact hearing was set up after this and I now will be able to see my daughter in a contact centre initially, with contact around the mothers new town by October. Game on 😉

Well done Lando!

https://www.dad.info/forum/child-maintenance/51171-maintenance-order-change-possible#98741

Guys

My story in short from start to finish.

Married for 13yrs together for 18yrs
she dropped the bomb 2yrs ago and we separated.
She wouldn't talk to me about the finances. everything was in her name apart from the joint account & mortgage so had no choice but to go to mediation, which made her really angry.
met with a solicitor while she was away with the kids and he told me not to leave the house and walk away.
my ex wife is a Narcissist, which I quickly discovered after we split and it all became clear.
She wanted the lions share. House, car, maintenance, and to bleed me dry and leave me with nothing.
Before we started mediation I had done my homework, despite her best attempts to fox me, I have my kids boy/girl 50/50 EQUAL shared care.
She wanted over £300 a month for maintenance which I DO NOT pay anything because a have Equal shared care.
I spoke to the CMS dept. 3 times and the same reply everytime, If you have your children on an EQUAL shared care basis then there is no primary carer of the children. So no paying or receiving parent.
I also applied to the child benefit office for one of my children as it's only right if I have them EQUAL 50/50 in my eyes its only fair.
They awarded me the C.B for my youngest child despite the kicking off with my ex wife.
You see, in the beginning they will promise you everything and to be amicable to suit what they are really after. All they are doing is getting everything into place to destroy you and leave you with nothing.
The family house got sold 50/50
4 credit cards in her name debt of 38k!!!! Gobbsmacked is not the word, I didn't know but that got paid off out of the equity of the house.
Her store cards which she tried to make me pay for half but I refused.

I all of the craziness that surrounds splits/divorce, the one thing you have to do is stay strong and do your homework. Don't listen to your so to be EX.

I pay for my kids when they are with me
I pay 50/50 for my kids when they are at school ( that's the only time I have to involve my EX and I keep it strict and down the middle )
I keep every receipt on anything a buy them and put in a box to keep just in case she try's to say I never buy anything for them.

I keep reading about guys who are in my situation who have their children the same as me and it kills me to hear that they do pay for everything because they have been manipulated by their EX by normally using the kids as pawns.

If you have your child s 50/50 even if your EX disapproves apply for C.B
If you have your child s 50/50 Equal shared care you need to ring the CMS because the online calculator cannot factor in Equal shared care.

It has been an absolute struggle for me this last two years but I have my own house now with a mortgage and the kids are settled now and that's all I wanted for them to be happy again.

Stick to your guns guys and if this helps just one other guy then this has been worth writing.

Good luck guys!!!!

Great result for Dadincourtalone, here’s his story. Well done, we love a good success story!

https://www.dad.info/forum/legal-eagle/50906-first-hearing-advice

Final hearing complete.

I pretty much got everything asked for.

Ex's solicitors were unbelievable - they left my most recent letter out of the bundle - goodness knows why. The court had a copy and had to give us all a copy.

They tried to argue all sorts of nonsense about how I couldn't get there to get my daughter and I wouldn't be able to drop her off as I'd outlined or I'd be fired from work - I answered everything calmly and played it all with a straight bat.

Now awaiting the written order.

I am sorry it had to get this far but Ex is such a control freak she couldn't even try to be flexible.

Thanks to all on here for help and suggestions, good luck everyone.

I had my 3rd and final hearing today. just fought to get bog standard order. before going to court, was just seeing kids every saturday for most of day. went to court for increased contact, mainly overnights. overnights were completely refused by ex. cited safety issues. cafcass did section 7 report. no child safety issues at all. yet at 2nd hearing still no agreement reach. lot of petty bickering about times to collect and drop off kids. final hearing got adjourned by a week, as cafcass not available.

it made a big difference as officer helped us reach agreements. so i will now get full weekends, every other weekend. mid-week contact every other week (i wanted every week, but was refused). and 1-2 weeks holidays (my jobs not that flexible - no paid holidays). travel abroad was raised. ex agrees to it as cafcass did, but it was added to recital. i just hope i dont have to return to court! judges didnt have to make any orders for us, as we reached agreements before going into court room.

special thanks to Mojo for his sound advice 🙂

Thanks for updating us Bill... it’s good news for you and your children. Well done!