[Solved] SUCCESS STORIES!

Hi

my son has had 2 years of it
ex had affairs then left
put non molestation on him that cost us £'s to get sorted
everything ok every other weekend then found army man . moved 150 miles away and then cafcass involved , they lied and now no unsupervised contact
costs us £200 a month for a 2 hr contact room [ travel fare inc]
now final hearing and Cafcass having meetings with mum , not us
want to see grand child and dad but messing around with dates
had final hearing but Cafcass now want to question psychologist/ report [ she is number 4 in country in her field
appears cafcass and mum are delaying everything so my son does not see his child
now final hearing next month
cant afford barrister as spent £25,000 already
appears no end to Cafcass and mum stopping my son seeing his child other than a phone skype and video skype once a week [ lasting from 2 mins - 15 minutes on a good day
judge has been good , same one last year but does not appear to over rule Caffcase , seems frightened to do so !!

Congrats... Its a hard road, I also have a cheating ex and loads of false allegations fired at my via my ex, but as admitted where i was wrong and stuck to the truth it shined through in court. Ok the passion I had when telling them about the kids and also 100% knowing in my heart they were better off with me than her.

I know im one of the very lucky ones, I have my kids amazing kids living with me in the week and they see the ex 5 out of 8 weekends.

Went MIA from this group for 3 years but now stronger and what to get more involved and see if any of what picked up along the way maybe helpful.

My babble on here is https://www.dad.info/forum/relationships/45004-struggling-single-dad-after-parnter-cheated-on-me?limitstart=0

Thanks for all the help and information from others posts.

This week I finally got a Child Arrangements Order.

Ex was playing games and even though she had told the Court in November she agreed with the contact schedule I drew up, she failed to state this to me or my solicitor.

Due to her behaviour where she abused, harassed and lied to my solicitor and her own lawyers - notice the plural - my solicitor did a lot of work for me pro-bono. So while I still have a legal bill it's about half of what it should be.

A member of my family came forward at the last moment to pay for a direct access barrister.Again because ex had abused them. (A friend also offered to pay a few minutes afterwards. ) As a result around 11pm the night before the hearing she found I was to be represented. She self represented but had a lawyer on the phone.

Ex complained in Court the measures she had put in place to control me had made child arrangements more difficult. I had been warned by the police, more than once, and multiple lawyers not to have any direct contact or direct communication with her. This came up in Court and ex tried to play the victim but the judge wasn't interested. As a result while I can have contact with her if there are witnesses and email communication, I can carry on ignoring her. She knows she isn't allow to visit or contact my partner, relatives or friends who I stay over with. While this is mutual, due to her behaviour in the last 5 years she has ended losing lots of friends and she is still single.

I now have my boys for Christmas for the first time in 6 years!

Hi all

Just drafting my 10 page statement for final hearing and I’m going to make a case for equal shared care. From a work perspective I can do it and at the moment I have 3/7 but ex has tried to control/limit school holidays to less than this for maintenance purposes hence my application for cap.

Any tips on what arguments to put forward for equal shared care. It’s hard to write it when effectively I’m doing it anyway. Not much my ex does other I don’t than school pick ups.

Thanks all !

hi Harry,

did you mean to write that you don't do school picks up and drops? if not then thats something the other side will make a big deal out of it, and would expect you to do.

what arrangements, and days do you have in mind for the kids?