Hi all, this is my first post.
I will (hopefully) see my kids for the first time in months next week. It will be supervised contact in the community.The kids are 10 and 11, it's 90 minutes after school, and we might be doing this quite a few weeks until the next court date.
I was thinking of things like bowling/skating, followed by dinner somewhere. Perhaps take them somewhere where we can make Christmas preparations. We used to spend a lot of time outdoors, but it will be dark and cold on these occasions. We also liked board games, puzzles and stuff which will be more difficult. I also guess I'm not expected to bring them home or to friends, and some places might feel awkward to introduce a note-taking social worker.
My question is whether you guys have some advice what works best, any do and don'ts I need to be aware of as I plan, and generally what the social worker's role will be like.
My ex-wife left in a sudden temper a few months ago. She has now all but taken back her allegations of me regarding the kids (not re her tho), but she still says they're afraid of me. They weren't afraid, and they aren't when I see them on Skype, so I don't really expect any issues when I see them - but she might of course be telling them all sorts of stuff.
Any ideas would be great as I plan. I'm really excited, but also know that the reports will be key to getting unsupervised contact later. /w
Hi there
I have to say, it's unusual for contact that is supervised by a Social Worker to be so flexible, I've only known it take place in their offices or some form of contact centre. Have you liaised with the SW and sought their opinion on where might be good for them, as it's colder now, your choices are limited. You might find that the SW would be ok with you taking them to your home, or a trusted third party's house, such as close family or friends.
If they are tasked with writing a report, they will want to remain in the background and observe your interaction with your children, and theirs with you.
I would just be yourself, let the kids set the pace and try and avoid any sensitive conversations, just keep it light and fun. Show that you can take care of their practical needs too, making sure they get something to eat and drink, it's one of the first things my grandchildren ask for after a hard day at school!
Best of luck
We've agreed to the details now and we will be in my house