Hi Guy's
Well it's been a rollercoaster couple of months as always.
After an horrific 2020 I was stopped from seeing my child for 7 months which involved both family and criminal court.
The second family court hearing was mid december to review the S7 report which recommended that contact be supervised for 3 weeks then weekly to built up to how contact was for the previous 7 years 4/7 nights per week by the next hearing mid March.
It went to unsupervised straight away and I have been picking my child up for 3 hours per week, it's been great seeing my child but 2 weeks ago my child said theyre not used to seeing me still which was a killer to hear.
just before contact last week I received a call from SS to say TOP had been intouch to say my Child didnt want to see me, they said she tried to encourage my child but she didnt want to force the kid to come so contact wont be going ahead,
I said fine ok no issues and that was that, I've had no communiction with SS throughout and they ignore all my calls I'm just hoping contact goes ahead this week.
TOP tried to disrupt my child contact with me when I went through court a few years back it feels like shes doing the same again this time round it just seems strange just when things are going good she tries to throw a spanner in the works.
I've been so deflated since my child said she wasnt used to seeing me then not wanting to come last week I suppose I cant do anything until the next hearing its so frustrating.
I had criminal court 6 weeks ago as i was on 2 made up charges, I got sentenced for one charge as I pleaded guilty and got a light punishment and a restraining order on me.
The other more serious charge got threw out, my solicitor completely destroyed TOP and all her made up lie were exposed so all in all it didnt go to bad although I now have a criminal record for trying to protect my child but hey ho.
The relief is unreal now criminal court is over and the fight continues through family court, the past weekend was a struggle not seeing my child, I feel gutted this week proper down in the dumps, this is now the 8th year and 3 times through court and i'm tired real tired.
hi Slim,
it's good to see you back. I remember when I first appeared on this site, dazed and confused. I remember your posts and they were very helpful & motivating. hang in there. This is not the first time you have been through this. I have gone months without seeing the kids too. read your signature. Don't let the system beat you 🙂
Thanks mate much appreciated, as always recently I NEED TO TAKE MY OWN ADVICE lol
That must be heartbreaking to hear 🙁 I hope over time she warms to you and you can start rebuilding relationships.
I’ve seen her 5 times before that and it’s been great, our bond didn’t seem to be have broken it actually improved, I suspect top has decided to scare the life out of her to make her not want to see me.
Got to spend a few hours with my child last night. Overall it was great, we played hide and seek, Lego, had some food I’ve tried to plan exciting things for next week and tried to keep keep kiddo occupied. It has shocked me on how top has wrecked the poor kids head, I can tell they sort of feel guilty to top for seeing me, I sort of had to ignore the couple weeks of hate influenced into my poor kid. About 30 mins in and kiddo was happy as Larry with me. I’ve finally got kiddo eating at mine and enjoying their food, they’ve been struggling to eat a full meal for the past 6 weeks, every week they’ve commented that they go to bed at 02:00 - 04:00 and get up around 13:00 so absolutely nothing has changed since the ss intervention 9 months ago, it’s infuriating. Contact was supposed to build up to what it was 4 nights out of 7 by next months hearing, that blatantly isn’t going to happen when it’s a few hours a week at the mo.
After my recent wobble I’ve got my head round I’m in this for life now and all I can do is fight and be there for my child no matter what.
Glad that you've had some contact Slim. Hang on in there. You can do this .