I was requested to do three things by the end of this month in the directions hearing a few weeks back -
1. Get costs for a Cannabis hair strand test
2. Obtain a letter from my GP stating that I went to my doctor to get help with my Cannabis addiction.
3. Attend a spip course.
Now I have completed all three and sent a little letter and proof that I have done all the above to Cafcass, the courts and my Ex.
I'm attending a fnf meeting this week and I'm looking into doing a parental course and I was wondering if anyone has any other suggestions of what I can do to improve my chances of getting some sort of contact to see the girls as it's fast approaching 6 months now since I seen either of them?
Many thanks in advance
Slim
Good luck Slim I think you will get there in the end. I have been in and out of court over the last 15 months with various obstacles but it does seem to take time. You seem to have your head screwed on meaning you are being sensible. Keep a daily diary and copy what she posts on social networks etc but at the end of the day don't bite and ignore it for now !
I think the big problem with the resident parent mainly the mother is and we have the saying "pocession is 9/10th of the law" and the system is still biased towards them. We need to write a book slim about our experiences ! lol
I've booked myself on a couple of surestart parenting courses to jump the gun as my ex was harping on how I couldn't look after the girls and it said in the direction for cafcass to look into it but I know that shower of s*it will take for ever to sort it 🙂
I've just got a load of pic of my girls through my ex FB so feel a bit better now 🙂
Hi slim,
As said your already doing things the right way and when you can present to the judge that you are one step ahead of cafcass and already attending (or have attended) the parenting course I would imagine the judge would see this as positive for your case.
All I would do is (and only you know your ex) look at what other obstacle's your ex may put in the way of contact and try and be one step ahead, so your already enrolled onto a parenting course as you feel this will be thrown up, think of anything else she may do and either have evidence ready to prove her wrong or be ready with a plan or answer.
But as said I think your doing a great job of working through the problems before they arise so keep doing what your doing and I'm sure you'll get the result you deserve.
GTTS
Hi
Just another thought after reading your other post, thought I'd post back here though.
Maybe do a first aid course, a general one is good enough but even better would be one focused on children.
And also maybe have a written routine ready for the time you see the girls, with key points listed out at different times while they are with you, be clear that you know these things can't be set in stone as if step daughter needs changing she needs changing but it will show you are thinking about everything they need while they are with you.
GTTS
Many thanks I am picking through the s2 and court directions as we speak, thats a winner about the first aid course I think I'm going to start gearing my pad up for the girls I've only got one bedroom but was thinking I could get a sofa bed and I could bed down in the living room if and when they stay I've already got a large cot for my baby and was thinking get a little bed for the older girl.
I've already got loads of toys and games for both girls all learning stuff too although my step daughter just loves mixing on my decks, I want to do as much as I can as it takes my mind off things as is cracking on 6 months since ive seen the girls and its going to be atleast another 3 months as I was warned by cafcass till i see them.
