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Who Decides On Access??

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Wife and I are divorced, financial consent order is in place and I am soon to be moving out of the family home as I have found a new place.


We are disagreeing over access to our son. I want 50/50 she is offering alternate weekends and one night mid week. I know we can mediate but I also know that neither of us will budge on our current positions.


I proposed a rota of 3 days one week and 4 the next but when you work it out on a calendar it ends up being a week each which she says is too long for her to go without seeing him.


If we reach the point where I move out before we can agree something what can I do? Who is in control? What if I wanted to see him more so I simply turned up to pick him up from school? She wouldn't be there, her father would collect him for her.

Topic starter Posted : 19/03/2021 10:34 am
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you should book a MIAM mediation appointment and try settle issues for 50/50. doing school runs will improve your chances. If you go court and don't get 50/50, you may find that they still expect you to do school runs if you want children staying over with you mid-week. If you tell them your work commitments will get in the way, then you may end up with less access.

Posted : 19/03/2021 2:15 pm

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I think every other weekend and 1 day overnight stay during week is very fair . You could make sure that its friday pick up from school and drop off monday at school so you would be getting 10 nights out of 28 and half of the holiday and special days shared

Posted : 19/03/2021 4:16 pm

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