Hi everyone.
I'm going to give some detail about the situation I'm in at the moment. Last year my partner (expartner) and myself split up after I had strayed and slept with another woman. I didnt see my son in over 2 months, had no contact to him and every time I'd try and contact his mother I'd have the police phoned because apparently I was harassing her. We finally got back together and I wish I could say we lived happily ever after. Due to the nature of her phoning the police they had to forward it to social services.
She had made allegations up about me in anger which has cost me a few jobs now and left me unemployed. I had asked her to phone them and to clear the air about us but she refused.
Recently in the last week apparently social services has told her that I'm not allowed to be around my son without supervision although I've been his main caregiver since last september when my partner/ex partner started her college course. I've spoke to social services and they said they had worries about me last year but since then nothing has come from it according to them.
What confuses me is the following, is she trying to break up with me and alienate my son from his father so she can play happy families with a new man if there is one. Or is social services not being honest with myself in regards to this.
I just dont know what to believe anymore and its making my heartache as I love the woman more than anyone else, all I want to do is make a family for my son. I know I caused her an immense amount of pain but I've learnt my lesson and would never do it again. I know she is terrified that social services will take our son away from her and maybe that is causing resentment issues towards me.
Is there anyone else in the same situation as me?
Hey and welcome to the forum 🙂
I didn't go behind my ex's back but I did do something that really hurt her during her pregnancy that I deeply regret and my ex stopped me from attending the birth and stopped me meeting my daughter for 6 weeks she also phoned the police got in touch with ss so I can relate totally.
Try not to second guess things as it will do your head in trust me, communication is key here how are things at the mo? Do you still live with her? Are you seeing your child?
It sounds like ss are saying they haven't come across with any issues with you since last year so it seems genuine in what they have told you.
In the meantime is there any possibility you can sort another job out?
Keep your chin up
Slim 🙂
Ive tried contacting her but she wont reply, I've tried calling her but she never answers. I got kicked out 4 weeks ago and things were going back on track up until yesterday when all this happened. She told me she loves me yesterday before I left after finding this out from her.
I spoke to her sister and apparently shes not to have any contact with me till a meeting with someone. They wont tell me who the meeting is with which is leaving me dazed and confused.
At the moment I'm meant to see him on monday but under supervision. I feel like a criminal when I've never done anything to hurt anyone physically or mentally.
Her telling you she still loves you is a start I wouldn't be surprised if she is still feeling hurt over what happened, you might be wise to let the dust settle a little, try not to crowd her and try and be careful on sending her so many messages ect as these could be used against you as harrassment how about going to relate?
I honestly wish I could afford relate. The cheating on my part happened in May last year so I would have thought her feelings of hurt would have faded by now.
My ex still drops little lines in there when I meet her to do handovers ect thats nearly 2 years ago now, a woman scorned and all that, like I said it might be wise to take a step back don't pressure her and concentrate on making sure your ship shape and in good health you have to be for your child so concentrate on that for the time being, whats the score with the work situation as it helps to keep your mind busy?
Slim 🙂
This might help and I think it's free
http://www.relate.org.uk/relationship-help/talk-someone/live-chat
The people who ran my spips course were from relate I found them to be the nicest people I had meet throughout the court process they were great they are definitely worth a try 🙂
Thank you everyone for your kind words. Its such a confusing situation
Hi everyone, heres an update.
Today I had two police officers knock my door and try to arrest me for harassment. Apparently 15 texts in 4 days asking to see my son and asking whats going on between us is deemed as harassment. I was also wrongly accused of creating a fake facebook account in order to spy on my ex. The police confirmed my suspicion about there being another man by saying the following
"Mr (insert my surname) Miss (Enter Exs surname) has requested you do not contact her, do not phone her, do not in any way or form contact her or whoever she may be dating"
Was also told that I'm not allowed to see my son till mediation which will be on an unknown date for now. I dont have the money for a solicitor and I feel like I've lost the battle. Feels like my son will forget me again.
I have to ring Social Services tomorrow to see if they managed to get in touch with my ex. I'm praying that Social Services can help me see my son even if its by a contact centre