Hey All,
Im after some advice regarding my daughter and the maintenance money I pay for her up keep!
A bit of back ground on the situation im in, me and my ex are currently going through a dispute over child maintenance money and the owner ship of the house, currently I pay £500 per month which I actually just found out is too much for what I make - only supposed to be £426 per month as worked out through the CSA website, When we split up I agreed to pay £600 per month for my daughter when we were both living in the same town, when my ex met someone else she ended up moving away with my daughter, which is approx. 90 miles away from where I stay. I see my daughter every 2 weeks and since I had to travel these extra miles to see her I dropped the maintenance to £500 per month because of this, I mean if £500 per month isn't enough to up keep a 9 year old then how much do you need?!
The £500 per month is not enough and she wants more, fed up hearing she is struggling on the money I give her! She actually told me my daughter is missing out on swimming lessons because i dropped the money, the swimming lesson btw are £16 per month!!!
We are going through solicitors at present and she is wanting £775 per month for my daughter in exchange to sign her name off of the house, there is quite considerable profit left in the house now but not at the time of her leaving the house!! She is also wanting the money back dated for the £100 difference when i dropped it a few years ago. She thinks this a bargaining tool for her to get more money out of me when I reality she needs to wake up and smell the coffee!
Another fact is the clothes she dresses my daughter in, I mean for the money I give her you would she dresses up nice but no, its cheap cheapo clothing! I end paying for a wardrobe for her when she stays with me cause I sick fed up of buying clothes and sending them down the road and never seeing them again!
She seems to have more holidays than me and lives a champagne life on a beer budget!
My next move is to go through the CSA and let them settle this out but has anyone had previous experience's with this and any advice welcome?!?!
Cheers
My next course of action is to go through the CSA for
Hi and welcome
OK, it's now the CMS and not the CSA for new cases.
My thoughts are that whatever you agree to, it's not going to be enough for her. With regards to increasing the amount and backdating the payments -is that a year of increased payment and the backdated amount going to be less than what you'd gain in her coming off the house and losing on the equity? If so, then I'd go for it, and in a year's time, apply to the CMS for them to take the case, and the calculation they use will override the court order, and it will take your ex completely by surprise that the court order is no longer effective. Worth having a word directly with the CMS to confirm this to your satisfaction.
With regards to the swimming lessons, I'd pay for those yourself - that way she has no excuse.