hi all and thanks for letting me join in
so heres my story married 20 years most of it happy but the last three were [censored] on earth
my wife did everything in here power to make me snap so she could tell everyone I was the bad guy
well thank god I didn't
she agreed for me to keep our 9yr old son which I have done for the past 10mths
we are both happy and outgoing chaps having a good time most days etc
obvious ups and downs as we all do with our children
im being told from the school and friends that we have made and
neighbours have also stopped and said Well done doing a fantastic job with him
here is my dilemma he refuses point blank to see her as he is bored and does not like the 2nd new partner
I have tried and honestly hand on heart I have
she has made a rod for her own back having very little if any contact with him in the early stages fobbing him off w
with his grandma instead of spending time with her she would be out enjoying her new found freedom
today I get a letter form the court saying attend on ...... date to be held accountable for abuse (mental) I am forcing him not
to go I really am lost now how dare she accuse me of that and now she wants custody
any comments or thoughts that might help me and my son would be gratefully read and received
Gary
Hi There,
I would say that you won't have too much to worry about at 9 yrs old they would be able to talk to your child and see how he is, Cafcass will probably get involved and they can ask to talk to your child to see how he is, It seems as though she is just trying to find a reason to gain custody.
Do you have any proof of the failed contact time that was set up for her in the early stages as that would help your case.
In the mean time I would ask those friends, family and teachers to become available as charictor references if needed so you can start to build and prepair your responce.
GTTS
thank you gtts
yes I have all the dates and the reasons he didn't want to stay or the reasons she gave
on your last point my solicitor said references would not be of any use
hoiwever I agree with you and feel it would be wise to have them as back up so I will start
in my own corner and compile a frew really close friends and some of our old mutal fiends that new us when we were
together so that gives a broad range then
cheers
I agree with GTTS that you don't have anything to worry about, including residence - he's been with you for almost a year, so the court would have to have a really good reason to move him, which they don't.
It might be worth sitting down with your son to tell him that the court might insist that he sees his mother, and should they do that, how would he best prefer that to happen - don't promise him that it will definitely happen as you can't do that, but you can tell him that you will do everything you can to fight for his corner.
thank you for the encouraging words