Been through the mill, got the T-shirt. Litigated in Person etc... but now that I have secured contact, it feels like a pyrrhic victory. I have the kids from Saturday to Sunday, but it takes 1/2 a Saturday to get them to lighten up. I've fought hard to defend their best interest and they know this, but I struggle to undo their mom's poison on Saturday, I worry too that this could impact my new Mrs. Does anyone have similar experiences, will time heal this. What if the X is bitter for life? I guess what im asking is how best to manage poison. The kids are aged between 11 & 17.
Hi there
It's difficult and if you're anxious when they first arrive this will transfer to the children...just try and relax and perhaps talk to them about how you feel and what you could all do to make things a little easier. They are old enough to understand and perhaps if you work on a solution together that will help.
I guess it's always tough on new partners and again talking about it with her will prevent misunderstandings. Time is a great healer, but there's little you can do about a bitter X....let her get on with it, the kids are getting older all the time and as long as you rise above any bitterness towards her they will come to realise where the problems lies.
Best of luck
Hi
I'm inclined to agree with Mojo that time is a great healer and it's very common to feel this way after securing a court order as it doesn't resolve everything. Hopefully over time, things will improve with the children settling into visits and your ex will calm it a bit.
Keep posting and we will do what we can to support you.....