[Solved] child protection just been dropped to child in nee

Child protection has jsut been dropped at the 'year later' child protection conference but am not happy....... advice please

August last year I was reported by the nursery for being too aggressive getting my child out of the car when he was fooling about....... Police involvement, voluntary interview at police station...... charges later dropped... no evidence of wrongdoing.

Social services requested and I complied with moving out of marital home till things settled and the wife does not want me back. I am now living in a rented flat with un supervised access to the two children (boys aged 3 & 7).

Background
We had social services looking at us before this for about three years...... Two kinds of temper in the house mine takes a lot to blow but can be frightening when it finally does (never hurt my children or anyone else though) my wife smoulders continuously with jealousy and controlling/bullying behavior. I am a fairly passive guy (putting up with a huge amount) and my wife was actually violent towards me on occasions. She would often show resentment if I were talking to the eldest about something and she does not seem to connect with anyone including the two boys. Many outside family say she treats them as dolls.... loads of clothes & toys but no real effort towards them as small people.

Social Services have gradually been forced to consider her behavior........ (changing their original opinion ?) with displays of bad temper in meetings, reports of lack of child safety awareness at the roadside on numerous occasions. One protection meeting actually broke up when she stormed out because she could not handle having her actions questioned. The eldest boy said she was telling her mum (who has always been very supportive of me) that she should not be friends with me and it disturbed him that his granny was believing it and doing it.

I am unhappy that the CPC conference simply rubber stamped the decision to downgrade the status to child in need without any real discussion of what work still required or what standard needs to be achieved in the near future. This seems strange to me when serious issues have been discussed very recently (core group meeting before the conference).

To be fair the family has had an awful lot of help from various organisations at the behest of social services some of the team are saying it is hard to see what else can be done but I get commended for my willingness to accept advice and ask what I could do better in given situations.

I would rather get some idea what can be done to help the situation as it stands but feels as though I am simply playing a waiting game to see if the situation eventually develops to me becoming a full time father. Has anyone had a similar experience