i am looking for some advice on a situation with my ex and her partner.
2 months after my e moved out she re-partnered, since then she has started a group chat with him and her family.
she chastises me for not using it and only messaging her about the kids, they refer to him as stepdaddy(my Ex and her Partner), but has been in my children's life for about a year maybe.
He does nothing with my kids, ignores them but shows up as school meetings and such, she wont talk to me about out divorce or separation papers without him.
we tried mediation and he was asked to leave, the retired judge told her that this type of behavior is unacceptable.
we attended court last week over a few issues and she was told by the judge then as well that her new partner has no dog in the race and he is to remain out of it, and that she can share with him after the fact.
she is refusing to listen.
looking for some advice please
If she continues to bring him along to hearings after being repeatedly told not to then that will be down to the court to decide what to do. As they are disobeying a judge.
I'm not legal in any way but isn't it like being in contempt or something to ignore a judges demands.
I would ignore her and wwhhat she is doing and just concentrate on why you are there. The court will. Soon get fed up with it.
there has been no court order placed as of yet, she was verbally told by the Judge and the Retired Judge who did the mediation, that it was considered PACK mentality and she needs to stop.
my lawyer said i can file an order to have the communication to just between us in the matter, i might have to move to this.
thank you for the response
You don't need a solicitor as you can get help on here. I would not get involved in any group chat. child arrangements are to be made between you and your ex only. If you tried to mediate and its failed then just get the form signed by mediator and take her to court and get a child arrangements order in place. contact if there are no safeguarding issues will be based on your availability and not hers. generally most dads get half holidays , every other weekend and a day during week play + supper or play/supper /overnight stay
So I can Goto the local court house in my city and file for this?
Can I just check - are you based in the UK?
No Iβm in Canada
Ah, I did wonder. I'm afraid that we can't usefully advise on what the procedure is there as we simply don't have that experience on here, so any advice might not be correct legally.
It might be worth trying to find some groups locally who have more experience of the system over there.
hi,
plenty of info about canada child custody case process:
but you should really consider some legal advice incase you make the wrong decisions.
Thank You i will have a look, i didnt realize this was a UK site.
You're still welcome to ask for support and advice, no problem with that. π