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[Solved] I thinking my ex has post natal depression

 
Bear2018
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Hi there,

Well where do I start, me and my girlfriend of 18months have just had a kid. All through the pregnancy everything’s been fine between us.

No sooner than 6 days after she had the baby she wanted to leave me all of a sudden I watched her change over night. She went back to her mum and dads with our new born baby, her mum and dad where doing everything for her and I was left home alone. We’ve been split up just over a week now and she’s letting me see the baby whenever I want that’s not the problem, at first I begged her I said id do this and the next thing to get her back but still didn’t work. I feel like she’s been awfully quick into this and no thought what’s so ever, half her clothes are still her along with half of the baby’s things I’ve seen a huge change in her and I’m all most convinced it’s post natal depression. Her family are calling it “baby blues” and “hormones” all over the place and they seem to think they can fix her them selfs and won’t speak to the GP.

I’m always going to be there for her and the wee one and have stopped talking about things with her just about the baby and asking how she is. Before I coach my self into believe everything she says about she still loves me but doesn’t want to be with me anymore is there anything I could try. I did think about ignoring her completely for a while but I think she’d crack up and take that the wrong way. Any advice if anyone has had dealings with this kind of thing before.

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Topic starter Posted : 19/02/2020 5:46 am
actd
 actd
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Has she had a health visitor/midwife visit since the birth - they may be able to help.

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Posted : 19/02/2020 5:03 pm
Bear2018
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Yeah she has but hides it awfully well and she doesn’t think there anything wrong, do I just give her time?

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Topic starter Posted : 19/02/2020 7:03 pm
warwickshire1
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Its very hard to tell if an ex partner has post natal depression or not. sometimes you will just never know or get a reason if you break up. sometimes they wait whilst they are pregnant as they need your support whilst there are underlying issues and they don't tell you, once baby born they suddenly leave a few weeks later with no explanation expecting you to know why. sometimes they make a decision and are too proud to reverse it , by then other people interfere and make matters worse. Its a real tough one and maybe giving your ex a bit of space and focusing on baby maybe the best short term solution for now and maybe thinking to yourself whilst in deep thought if there is anything it could possibly be you have done 🙁

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Posted : 19/02/2020 9:30 pm
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