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[Solved] Menopause - I think shes insane!

 
paulfoel
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Been married 20 odd years.... Two kids.

Wife has always been a bit feisty and unpredicatable.

Late 40s now. Recently if I didn't know better I'd say shes gone insane. Shes always in a mood.
Some of the things she says and does just defy belief. I speak to her and, honestly, its like talking to a psychopath sometimes.

Please tell me this is not uncommon!

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Topic starter Posted : 18/12/2020 7:59 pm
Bill337
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Perhaps you can get her a GP appointment and let them figure out whats going on. Maybe counselling/therapist could help.

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Posted : 19/12/2020 2:59 am
Yoda
 Yoda
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Have you spoken to her about this during a time when you are both feeling okay?

Does she say she feels like she is struggling? She might be aware of it, she might not.

It could be helpful to encourage her to get a GP appointment to discuss things.

Your topic says menopause. Has she had it confirmed that she is going through it? It can be a particularly difficult time for the woman and their family but it usually does get easier.

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Posted : 21/12/2020 10:32 am
paulfoel
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No nothing confirmed. Never in a million years would I get her to go to the doctor.

Thats the problem - shes convinced she has no problem and its all me. If I even suggested that I'd be accused of trying to control her.

Some of the ideas she gets are just insane to be honest. I can honestly say she NEVER think shes doing anything wrong, and its always my fault. Its just bizarre sometimes.

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Topic starter Posted : 21/12/2020 1:20 pm
Clarinet
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Hello Paulfoel, Can I ask how old your children are? Being in your late 40's and having teens/young adults can be hard work especially at the moment with us all being in lockdown. Are there any issues that your wife could be worried about and she's keeping to herself? Sometimes when we are feeling down, worried or physically not right, then we tend to be cranky with those that are closest to us. Have you spent any quality time together recently without the kids? Perhaps you could surprise your wife with a little gift of why you fell in love with her. Doesn't have to be expensive or a big gesture, just something that makes you both smile. Perhaps the kids could make you both dinner if they are able? Why not suggest during a quiet and private time that you both go and see her GP, because you love her and are concerned for her. Remember she's mum to your kids which you had together - that's something to celebrate too. Kind Regards, Fegans Parent Support Volunteer

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Posted : 07/01/2021 3:58 pm
Syed-Ali
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For sure. Stay strong. God favours the righteous

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Posted : 09/01/2021 2:39 am
Djsmith
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Sounds like she is on the edge and Yes plays a big part my x decided enough and pulled the plug but has done so in a Narcissistic way over a period of time (Me working all the time) but providing was not good enough but all I'm trying to advise tread very carefully cover and document yourself.
If she doesn't seek help it will only go one way hope not.

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Posted : 12/01/2021 12:55 am
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