Hi everyone,
my story goes for long like many of yours. The current situation is that my ex moved with her new boyfriend to a place that is about over 2 hours away from me by train and as I've split up recently with my girlfriend and moved to a share house, I don't have even an option to bring my son for sleepover anymore. Moreover, my ex has been ignoring any my suggestions how to meet him for some time now and gave me an option I cannot meet and She knows that very well. She is not keen to let me see our son as we don't "like" each other a lot though the relationship between me and my son is good. I've been thinking about taking it to the court, we even had a mediation last year with no results, however, it worked for two months afterwards -somehow, like it always does up to two months. She even threatened me with raising payments to keep me from the court. The current amount I pay was confirmed by a court abroad as we both come from abroad.
According to the CSA calculator, I should pay 15% only. Can she ask for more money like for clubs ?
I managed to find a school he was transferred last month to and got registered with it. How can I find his GP ?
However, the real point of writing all of this is : what are your real-life experiencing with court decisions in cases like this? Can I easily end up seining him for 5 hours once a month ? At the moment, i would like to visit him in his city twice a month for whole Sunday afternoon.
Hi There,
With regards to raising payments as you say the CSA calculator will work out what you should pay and by law this is all that is asked, if you decide to pay over that is down to you, but the amount is supposed to cover all aspects of your sons up bringing, well your contibution to it anyway. So that would include clubs.
If you go to court, unless there are circumstances to stop it, I would imagine you would be awarded more that 2 sundays a months if you asked for it, though as you say not having anywhere for him to sleep would probably stop overnights, would you be able to stay with relative so you could have overnight contact?
GTTS
Hi, thanks for reply. As my son lives now in a different city there is no way for me to rent something and I worked every week until Saturday now so I am available on Sunday only for him as he has to go to school on Monday morning.
Anyway, can CSA override a court decision from another country regarding to money I pay towards my son on monthly basis ?
Hi,
Generally when there is a court order in place CSA can't over rule it, however I don't know if this is the same if the court order is from another country.
GTTS
In this country, the CSA can override the court ordered maintenance decision once it's 12 months old. I'm not sure about other country, but if it's a country within REMO, it's a possibiity. May be worth contacting these people https://www.gov.uk/remo-unit-helpline