A similar question has probably been asked before but would appreciate any advice on my scenario.
I Left the family home in 2008 (ex and 2 kids). I've been paying an amount over the CSA recommendations) direct to my ex since this time. I also signed over the family house to her (so not to disrupt the kids) so she has the mortgage on that during the divorce.
Son is now 16 and leaving school this year, but going to be either going collegue or apprentiship.
Daughter is 19 and going to Uni (local but she is moving out of the home and into student accomodation)
I've been told that legally I don't need to continue payments for my daughter direct to my ex when she starts Uni. Obviously, I want to support her as required, but this will be direct at my discretion.
Any advice would be appreciated
Better to not give this money direct to your ex unless you have to. Can you be sure she spends this on the children? When you see your daughter you could spend this money on her and you know for Def she is receiving it.
the money has always gone through a bank transfer direct in the past, but with daughter going to Uni, I'm expecting a comment in the near future to say that I'm still responsible financially for her and should have to continue payments.
If you're daughter is going to Uni then you have no legal liability to pay maintenance for her. It will then be your choice to whether to send any money directly to your daughter.
If your son stays in full time education, you will be liable to pay maintenance for him.
Here's a link to the CMS calculator so you can work out what you will be expected to pay. Taking a screen shot of your legal liability and sending it to your ex could be a good bargaining point if you are still intending to pay a little over what is actually required.