Thank you, @Bill337,
I completely agree! And will discuss this further with the solicitor helping me.
The problem is this woman never knows when to stop. And will not hesitate to use kids or undertaking for her bitterness. So I thought to contest this and prove she is lying will stop her somehow. Also, no matter what, she will make child contact hard for me. But again, I am very inexperienced with family law and will take all the suggestions here onboard.
Thanks a ton!
you say you told the barrister to apply for a non-mol against her? Are you using lawyers / barristers?
If you are, they can speak for you at the hearing.
If you are not, it is a good idea to write a position statement and respond to some of the points in hers and refer to the evidence you have to dispute her claims.
It's unlikely things will be solved in this hearing as it's likely to need a longer listing time to deal with all the issues.
Thank you for your input, @Yoda.
Initially I used ClerksRoom direct, and got assigned a Barrister who helped me filing the C100 and witness statement.
However, that barrister would take a week to reply to my emails, etc. As things were already slow, and I was already spending too much money on that, I switched and am now using Family First Sollicitors on PAYG basis (so this is quite informal), as I just buy their time for advise and help. They are now writing a position statement for me as you said, and will get it done by end of this week, they said. But I will be representing myself, as I cannot afford their fee for that
And yes I am not expecting much of an outcome from this hearing as it is just for 30mins too. But will also ask the judge to combine the case with my C100, and hopefully they can briefly touch on child contact, as I saw from other post here that someone got lucky to have such request accepted by the judge.
Thank you!
Best of luck.
It is very rare that courts will leave NMO & child matters as separate sets of proceedings so that shouldn't be an issue.
Please feel free to keep asking questions and we will do what we can to help. Glad you have some assistance for the position statement.
Best of luck.
It is very rare that courts will leave NMO & child matters as separate sets of proceedings so that shouldn't be an issue.
Please feel free to keep asking questions and we will do what we can to help. Glad you have some assistance for the position statement.
Thanks ever so much!
Update after NMO 1st hearing
First of all thanks so much once more to everyone.
I have been to the hearing and it went well, I guess.
I have contested, and the judge said they will speak to the Manchester Court, and confirm that both cases can be combined. So I gave the judge the case ref at the Manchester court
Also, the judge said that the NMO will stand for now, until next hearing at least, which I am happy with anyway.
The best bit is that, when I said to the judge that I have not seen the kids for more than 2 months now, the judge said as there are no concerns re kids on the NMO, her lawyer should make temporary child contact arrangements with me, so we arrange child contact until next hearing.
I am so happy with the hearing overall, as I did not even expect child contact to be touched. So I am waiting for her solicitor to call me and arrange child contact for now. BTW, the judge seemed very understanding, fair, transparent towards me. etc... Although I just spoke briefly, which is fair enough, as they both had my position statement.
Also, I received yesterday the Order from Manchester Court (nothing much on it). CAFCASS could not speak to the other party as they did not have their contact details at all, so they have listed this for FHDRA on 18/02/2020, and asked us to provide our contact details in the meantime, but I guess this may change, as the judge in Crewe is now trying to combine both cases.
I have also received my report from GP stating that I have never suffered depression with all the appointments, tests, etc I did with them, so that is one strong evidence to deny her allegations. I will now relax for the rest of the week, then start gathering all other evidence before the next hearing.
I am happy but aware that this is just one step forward out of 100s.
Thank you all so far for all support, advice, you name it... I will keep you updated again 🙂
Help !!!
Since the judge said on Wednesday there should be contact arranged, the other party and her solicitor are trying to play this really hard. I have been calling emailing them since Wednesday and they still cannot tell me anything clear about kids contact. Now they're asking me to wait again for their client to decide on how this contact will be done, and they will contact me on Monday.
I am just losing my patience now, as I gave them loads of options for contacts, and just so you know, there is no order denying me contact atm and we still have the same parental responsibilities towards Kids.
I was expecting physical contact with kids ASAP, but they said phone calls for now, which I agreed with for now goping that would happen on weekend, but it looks like they want to drag this forever, and don't care that there has been no contact with kids for over 2 months
Is this normal? especially when they said to the judge they will discuss kids contact after hearing.
Any advice will be much appreciated, as I think because I represented myself and not aware of laws and stuff they are just not putting in any efforts in, and careless about kids
All you can do is wait until Monday and see if solicitor gets back to you.
A solicitor is instructed what to do by your ex partner, so is most likely your ex partner who is delaying matters.
If you write/phone/email solicitor will just ignore as not had any instructions from client. They normally closed weekends so if you dont hear nothing maybe try again before close of day monday
Many thanks for you response @warwickshire1
I will try to be patient and wait till Monday then
Cheers