I just want to put out there that what right has a woman got to alienate a father from his children. I am a dad to three wonderful kids, and my ex wife has since the day we separated, now divorced held me with contempt, hatred and deceit regarding my contact with my kids. My eldest son being my adopted son, had no father figure when i met his mum, and I brought him up as my own. The next two came along and we were a little family getting by day to day, but things between me and the mother were somewhat strained and i stayed for the sake of the kids and went back twice after mild separations for the sake of being with my little babies, who i adore and love very much.
The time came when it was necessary to make that break from the family home as things had become untenable between me and my children;'s mother. However, things were fine at first seeing the kids every weekend sometimes all weekend, until i met my new partner and my ex wife suddenly changed and started on her warpath the destroy me and my life and everything around me.
To be accused of mentally, physically and sexually abusing your children with no grounds or evidence to support her claims, my ex wife has dutifully continued her barrage of hatred, mind games, and using the kids as a weapon to hurt me anyway she can. This is literally flipped my world upside down and never did i think she would fulfill her promise. I have been blackened and its not fair women can get away with this.
I was seeing my kids and in December 2013 i last saw them on 14/12 and they went home, but me and my ex wife had been communicating thru mediation and notes passed to each other on completion of contact visits. I had been corresponding via a third party being my ex mother in law but had not been getting any response to text messages or my notes regarding xmas and new year contact. I called the 3rd party number to see if it actually worked and immediately put the fone down. Then the ex mother in law called my home and my wife answered the fone to a torrade of abuse and threats. I chose to call back to try and explain but she yelled me down and hung up on me. 4 days later the police arrived at my door with an accusation that i had been threatening and harrassing my ex mother in law. this was not true and i explained to the officer what had happened. She offered to communicate with my ex wife about the xmas contact and I was told I could have a couple of hours on boxing day and that was it. i felt this unfair compared to our usual arrangements. the ex mother in law said she no longer wanted to act as the 3rd party and i was to delete the numerb which i did, my ex wife then said she could not guarantee any xmas contact as she did not know what was happening. With no way to contact her, the officer advised to postpone my contact until i went back to court, which never happened as my ex was not in the process of going for a specific issue order and I would get a court date in due course. two weeks ago i contacted the courts as I had heard nothing, and they said she had withdrawn her application and the file was closed. how can this be it was my application not hers, and I now have to re-apply and have to pay £250 in the process.
My ex wife knows she can do this all the time and i will have to keep re-applying. how can this be right and how can she get away with it. Can anyone advise or help me it is so hard not seeing me kids, but at least I know im providing for them.
Am I doing something wrong here....?????
I would ask the court for an explanation as to why they have closed your case - that does sound very odd.
have you tried mediation at all?
I agree actd, point out that as the respondent she was not in a position to withdraw the application, stick to your guns and ask for another court date.