Hi guys, I am a reasonably new member to this forum. Like most of us, I never guessed I would ever even need to look at something like this but boy I have and do you know something, i'm not sure Id have survived without it. I don't think I realised how pivotal this would be to the beginning of my recovery. I am by no means at the end of my trauma, closer to the start but the progress I have made in 5 months since being thrust into this unexpected nightmare of being denied my child is so much more than I could have hoped for, thanks in part to the legal process but also to the invaluable advice I have gathered via the kind people on here.
Slim told me at the start, when I was really down, scarily so, at the outset of this situation to keep going and he was right. I don't want to tempt fate but I can see light at the beginning of the start of the tunnel lol. My ex position is becoming ridiculous to the extent that having jumped through the hoops necessary to now be at a point where I expect the court will help me in the next few weeks.
So many folk have in my hour of need and private messaged me and a very special mother and son have took it upon themselves to give me their numbers for any time I need some support. That level of kindness astonishes me and ill never forget it.
never did I ever think my username on a internet forum would be broken dad. Thankfully as the truth always outs, broken dad is at the initial stages of being partially glued together, maybe just the 1st piece and the latters will take a bit longer to fit together but tell you what, feeling like I do today, Ill take it compared to 5 months ago.. heartache ahead that's for sure but with a degree of contact certainty so cruelly denied me till now.
Even in my darkest days, I would never give up on my child and I think to some degree that perseverance is beginning to pay dividend and maybe just maybe the world can be a just place if you persevere enough. I've broken limbs through sport and been in agony but I have never ever endured a pain like this situation brings.
Thanks for sharing bd... I think we all get frustrated that we can't do more, after all we are in the virtual world, but I think we underestimate the power that coming together and sharing our problems has.... This forum has been a lifeline for many and it's down to the calibre of our members whos kindness never ceases to amaze me.
Woo!! Hoo!! Absolute legend good to hear you have picked yourself up dusted yourself and come out your corner fighting I've got the rocky theme tune rolling round my strange head for some reason haha.
Seriously though I have been there so to have a lot of other Dads on here, there is always hope and there's always light at the end of the tunnel, the system will in the end see straight through your ex and you will be a part of your child's life for sure it's the law, we are given all these hoops to jump through as the system always airs on the side of caution.
onwards and upwards my friend 🙂
Slim 🙂
Hi BD,
All the Dads on this forum are going through the same painful journey i'm afraid 🙁
Hopefully as a group we can share our experiences & help each other through the biased & sexist court process
When I say say sexist I mean biased towards the Mother as there are many women on here who's sons & partners are suffering due to contact denial with their children & who are supporting them.
So! loads of people on here happy to support you & listen 🙂
Whats cooking with your situation now Loddy, could you PM me that number I gave you I've got to do another [censored] hair strand test I've lost it
Whats cooking with your situation now Loddy, could you PM me that number I gave you I've got to do another [censored] hair strand test I've lost it
PM sent!
I'm still waiting for the Section 7 report to be done! I'm not holding my breath though as I'm in Court in 7 weeks & I've still had no contact from CAFCASS.....
My Daughter will be one soon & I've never seen her!!!
Oh well I'm sure the Police & Social Services are doing a good job protecting the abusers.............
Much appreciated mate 🙂
Yeah man my girls one next month I've only seen her for 4 weeks out of her life it's unreal.
That shower of S**t cafftwats were given 4 months to do the s7 and they rattled it off in one week 2 weeks before the court hearing complete arses the lot of them.
Hi Brokendad,
Both LnH and I are glad to hear that you are getting better. The road to recovery, if ever there is such a thing, is indeed a long and strenuous one, peppered with obstacles, hoops to jump through but....worth it in the end.
For all the heartache,pain and despair, 2 little hands wait for you to hold them and guide them through life.
This forum was, is and will be my life line to sanity, without it I am sure I would be in a padded cell by now.
Take care
Kirsten
Do let us know how you are getting on
"The road to recovery"
Thats the best way of puting this journey that Ive heard yet.
It truly is a road to recovery for all those concerned especialy the children involved as the Dads that I know only wish to build a good life for there chldren so that they and the children can recover and live the best life possible for all.
This forum is a lifeline and helped me through some very dark days and as Mojo said, it is the calible of pople here who make it what it is.
Regards,
Dave
just handed my boy back after two consecutive days. Pain and Joy in equal measure as he clung to me and asked to stay longer at the handover point. Pain of seeing him upset, the joy of the clear bond we have between us so much that he wants to stay.
I think I have to give credit where its due to my ex who has wronged me in other ways but I think its safe to say that she recognises the importance of our relationship and is clearly not alienating him which I am relieved at.
Once, either by agreement or by court order, we get the extended overnight time required for our relationship to grow even closer, Ill be the happiest dad in the world or I guess equivalent to anyone lol that has successfully negotiated this form of [censored].
For those in despair, these words mean nothing, similar words meant nothing to me at the outset of this, persevere, it will come. Posters like Simon, LNH, Slim, Kirsten, 1626, Dave and others, people in much worse positions than I've been in, I am genuinely amazed at your tenacity and enthusiasm bourne of a love for your children that knows no bounds and most of all despite each of your individual heartache, your genuine desire to help folk like me whos starting point was a bit more advanced than your own, Thanks guys, I owe you all.
I think I have to give credit where its due to my ex who has wronged me in other ways but I think its safe to say that she recognises the importance of our relationship and is clearly not alienating him which I am relieved at.
That's actually quite an important statement - it might be worth telling her that (in careful words) - it could be a step in repairing trust between you and getting you additional contact, or even just making it easier on your son seeing that you can both get along as friends.