evening folks, i'm a relative newcomer to this site. thanks to the various people who have helped me so far on this nightmare. I see my son this weekend, who means the world to me, my complete world. I simply have to keep going for his sake.
Like some others on here, I feel like i'm battling an absolute desire from his 'mother' to get rid of me. That will simply never happen. The relationship has ended, but my being a dad never will.
I'm about to travel the considerable distance to see him for a short period this weekend. I love you son and ill never stop, no matter what obstacles are put in my way.
I will never ever go to 'contact' with my boy. Ill go to see him and spend some wonderful time with him. I'm his dad, I always will be, not matter what I am put through...
Sorry guys, I am very emotional tonight. As wonderful as 'contact' is, I know that feeling of torture when I leave him is again on the horizon. I feel sick just thinking about it.
We all feel for you BD...the hope is it will get easier and as he gets older you will have more time with him. The bond you share will not weaken because of the distance between you, I know, if anything the time you do share with each other will become even more special....how do I know this? Well my Dad worked away all over the world and it would be 6 months between visits sometimes, we missed each other sure, but we got used to it and we were so so close.... In those days we only had long distant phone calls which were intermittent, and letters that could take weeks to arrive depending where he was based....but we overcame it...love finds a way always.
thanks mojo, I appreciate it. Its a farce. no supervision required, not in a contact centre or anything, can do as we please. just the victim of someone who knows by doing anything to delay the administration that residential contact is imminent.
Thankfully I return to court soon where my solicitor who simply cannot believe my ex wifes conduct (neither does her own either!) is very confident of a residential overnight result.
just a disgrace...
Chin up, you're heading in the right direction and doing all you can, enjoy your time this weekend.
My kids have a really good relationship with their Dad, he works away for long periods of time, when we were together and after we separated, although they miss him, it hasn't affected the bond they have. As Mojo says, it can be overcome & love does indeed find a way.
From reading your posts, your case sounds strong and hopefully you and your son will soon have the time together you both deserve 🙂
thanks for your kind words. I am home tonight, had a totally fantastic time. Things are evolving, my son loves me that's beyond doubt. he wanted to stay longer. It broke my heart but equally reassured me.
I am closer to resolving my case quicker than some poor souls on here, of that i'm sure. I will however, never leave this site. Never have I felt lonelier in my life than when this nightmare began. You will never be rid of me lol. Ive amassed a bit of knowledge and ill use it as best I can to help anyone who finds themselves in the grip of this scenario from here on.
My life is moving on, its getting back to where I want to be, thanks to my family, friends and this site. Have faith people, have faith.
...Aw it's great to hear you being more upbeat BD...maybe you should think about changing your username as someone suggested! Lol
Often members join when at their lowest and with some help and encouragement and good advice we watch them grow stronger...sometimes they stay and contribute, but mostly they slowly stop coming, which is good in a way as it means they are back on track. So I'm very happy that we won't be getting rid of you and I shall hold you to it!
I'll echo what NJ has said, it's great to hear you sounding better. This site has been invaluable to my partner and helped me to support him no end.
Good to hear you had a brilliant time with your son. Looking forward to hearing more positive things 🙂