Dads, do you struggle sometimes? Who do you reach out to for help? Debbie Pattison, a qualified counsellor at Fegans can answer your questions. Send them in to Ask Debbie at email@example.com and if she can she will answer. Today’s question is from a dad with low self-confidence.
I am a depressed Dad. After a court battle with my ex-partner and dealing with lies about me, I don’t have any self-confidence. I am scared of starting a new relationship with anyone in the future. What if it happened again?
You have been through so much. A court battle in itself is quite an ordeal, but together with all of the lies that have been told about you too is doubly impacting. I am not surprised that you are feeling depressed, and feel that your self-confidence is at a low point.
Firstly give yourself a big pat on the back for getting through this difficult time.
I am wondering what you feel you have learnt from this relationship. Now feels a good time to really look at this relationship and to determine what you would like from a new relationship. What qualities would you like in a partner and what do you feel you would be able to bring to a new relationship?
It would also be helpful to look at what you didn’t like about this relationship.
Have you considered counselling?
Counselling would be a really good way to explore relationships and to also help you to rebuild your self-confidence. I am sure you have much to bring to a new relationship, and by exploring these things it will help you to see what you do and don’t want in a future relationship.
We offer zoom counselling, which is a great way to access counselling at a day and time to suit yourself. Please see the link below to access this.
Debbie is an experienced counsellor and advocates for children and adult’s mental health.
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