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I've been separated from my young kids' mum for over 2 years, she moved out of area & I'm missing them so much. I see them as much as is physically possible but it's just not enough. They now have a new male figure in their lives that spends so much more time with them than me & it hurts badly. I've also got mental health problems & need to talk to people in similar circumstances
Hi, this sounds like a really tough situation for you. It can be very helpful to share and connect with other dads who are in similar situations - have you looked around to see if there are any local dad's groups meeting up either online or in person? Do you have contact with the children by phone or video already?
If you haven't done so, then let your ex partner know how you are feeling and that you would like to have more contact in some way with the children. Maybe you would be able to set up regular video calls, messages and even letter writing / sending pictures etc would be a nice thing to do.
When you are apart, focus in on the good times and the memories of moments you have connected and enjoyed together. Flip your thinking by seeing those memories in a positive, warm way and use them to get you through the periods between seeing them. Rather than viewing these memories as something that make you feel worse when you don't see them.
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