I am so gutted we were a close family but after the divorce she changed. I got a new partner and set up home for me and my girls I work and she doesn’t so we agreed I would have them every other fortnight. Last summer she asked me for more money and I didn’t have it so I didn’t give her extra ( I had been paying regular payments). After then she isn’t letting me see the kids and have cut off communication. I do not want to go to court. What rights do I have to see them? What advice can you give me please?
hi,
sorry to hear this. I suggest the next step you take should be to attempt mediation. book appointment with a family mediator. they will decide whether to invite her to mediation or not. make sure to to use one thats registered by FMC.
I don't see any other way. if mediation fails, then mediator can give you permission to apply to court. I have been through all this. feel free to private message me if you need advice.
Hello Missingmykids.
Thanks for sharing. it cannot be an easy time for you. As well as the suggestion above by Bill337, is there any way that your ex partner would agree to you having a zoom call/whatsapp call with your children twice a week? I am not in a position to make a legal suggestion, but I would say that you have a right to see your children. You are their Dad and as part of their emotional and mental well being they need to spend time with you in order to grow and thrive. If you have written proof or electronic proof of your payments to your ex, then I would suggest that you get some kind of legal advice and ascertain what you can do next.
From a parenting point of view, I would write letters to each of your children, if you have missed birthdays or Christmas, buy some cards, write them and keep them in a special box, so that when you are able to have access again, they know that you did everything you could to be able to keep contact and that you still cared and loved them. Unfortunately you have no control over your ex partners actions or what she says to your children, but you have control over how you act and what you do for your children.
I wish you all the very best. Please keep us updated on how things are going.
Kind Regards, Fegans Parent Support Volunteer.
Whatever rights you have, ultimately the only way to enforce them if your ex isn't co-operating is to go to court, so while I can sympathise that you don't want to go to court, ultimately that may be your only route.