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So, what makes things a bit more complicated is that I pay child support independent of the CSA/whatever it's now called. My daughter is 19, and was/is supposedly doing a course full-time (NVQ). However, my daughter the other day let slip that she was working six-days-a-week as a cleaner, full-time hours. I responded by stopping the child support, only to have her mother (a compulsive liar) give me the third degree about it. I pointed out that she clearly couldn't be working six-days-a-week and doing a college course full-time, and she then claimed that she never had started doing six days a week, but that her boss had wanted her to, and she had decided to do only three times a week, and was still doing her course after all. My daughter has corroborated this over Facebook Messenger, but is likely just saying what her mother tells her to.
Is there any way that, as someone with P.R., I can request proof that she is still in education? I obviously can't file it as a change with the CSA, and, as I'm not on the college she supposedly attends' records, I probably can't be given that information if I contact them.
hi,
I think only way you will know is if your ex opens a CMS claim, and they inform you of situation. If she does not do this, then it's likely she knows that child is not eligible for maintenance. legally, age 20 is final cut off period for child maintenance.
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