Hello all,
Not sure if anybody has ever had this issue but my ex gf has bipolar so I always feel like I can't bring up anything negative or stay strong and take control of any situation or she can be really nasty with my son and sends hostile messages for weeks.
For the last 3 months things have been going on well between us but I bought a coat for my son that stays in my car for when I have him and I left it at my ex by mistake well she seems to have claimed it and said on door step earlier oh your sons coat is currently covering the Xmas presents and don't want him to see the presents but here is his other one and I didn't want to say anything but felt alot of tension.
How do it get it back smoothly without her being hostile because in her mind she just sees it as his possession but she has like 3 coat for him I bought it for the purpose of keeping it in my car or house to make things easier .. ....won't see that coat again lol
hi,
the next time your child is coming round to stay, you could send a polite message about putting the coat on him. and next time it would be better if you just keep all clothes/toys that you get for him, leave them at your place.
It's one for you to judge really - either you force the issue with all of the potential issues that causes, or you try a gentle reminder to see if you can get it back, and if not, you accept it's gone, replace it and don't make the same mistake again.