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College and work for my child combined, does it make a difference?

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I know this may seem like an erratic request so please accept my apologies up front for that.

My child is 19, but has signed on to another course, I think just over 12 hours a week, as I understand it, that is a qualifying course.

I had been asking my ex if my child had a job for 6 months, she kept saying no - it turns out, he has had for quite some time.  I don't know how many hours etc.  Now I have said I can prove he has a job, she says - it was only temporary and now he's stopped working to go back to college.

I asked for evidence of earnings and was denied.

At each point I ask for proof at both him having a college course and not having a job, I am refused any information.  I am told to accept this and carry on paying, which is an informal arrangement.

Do I have any choices?  I have never stopped paying since he was under 1 year old, but I am in severe financial situation now and I am genuinely struggling - I still have made sure that they are my first payment every month.  I think I'm being lied to, what should I do to protect myself?  Are there any means I can use to check he is actually in education and also not working?   I know he definitely has been working but does that affect what I should be paying?

If he is working but also in a qualifying education status, does that mean I still am required to pay?  I know that sounds horrid....but I really am struggling and I know they are not.


Topic starter Posted : 12/09/2022 10:11 pm
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If its an informal arrangement and you are not required to pay by the CMS then it would appear you can just stop.  She can then make a claim to the CMS.  You can use the calculator on the CMS site to find out how much you would have to pay.  If she's not getting child benefit then I think you do not have to pay maintenance.  Do you have any contact with your son?  You can ask him how he's doing and find out the true situation

Posted : 14/09/2022 8:14 am

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