Hi all,
Dad of an 8yo girl, took Mum to court in 2019 and 2021 for breaking word of 50/50, contact denial and false allegations.
CAO: lives with Mum, 50/50 in Holidays (6 weeks each p.a) and during term time: 5/14 nights with me
At both final hearings (and in CAFCASS recommendations) Mum agreed to increase the contact over time to 5050, we were told after 6 hearings not to come back and work together. I was paying Mum direct every month with no issues.
We were getting on increasingly well from June 2021 last hearing until Nov 22 - Daughter was exposed to animal slaughter videos (Mum is militant vegan and every other Woke cause) - I expressed concerns. 4 days later I get a letter from the CMS. Joke was on her as the amount they stated was a lot less - so I said nothing, stayed polite and paid.
We continued to improve and attended school meets (daughter bullied), parents evening, sports day - together. Daughter happy. Ongoing hearing issues/potential autism and we have been great together trying to get her help.
Got the new amount from CMS - 4x higher now as last year I was off sick/self employed. I asked Mum if she could cancel her claim and we could talk, she said: "what can you afford to pay? We are all struggling, I don't want your money" (she has jut bought a 2 year old car, her Mum a £900 ring, daughter a new £500 iPad and is on multiple benefits as well as working).
2 weeks ago daughter told me about some seriously inappropriate behaviour at Mums on NYE involving drunk children and heroin addicts/dealers in her garden (we have had words about these people before - dealer burnt 3 houses down and kicked the cop - this all came from daughter and Mum promised me they were out of her life)
Daughter was left "home alone and scared" as 14yo brother was drunk and Mum was partying with said junkies.
I raised my concern with Mum about it, she went off at me claiming my daughter doesn't really have hearing issues (she cries/screams when exposed to certain noises/frequencies - possible autism) but she is scared of me, and I am a cocaine addict (both false)
She is behaving exactly as she did before court hearing 1 - caught out, cornered and aggressive making false allegations when I asked her how she would describe what's happening to CAFCASS/court considering her word to eventually be equals in care. Daughter wants "equals mummy and daddy" so Mum is now indoctrinating her.
CMS text today saying Mum has complained I haven't paid full amount, I have 14 days or will be Collect & Pay.
Do I have any options?!
hi,
if you have not paid the amount set by CMS, I suggest you pay it asap. otherwise they put you on collect and pay, and you will have to pay a 20% fee on top of the payments. only way CMS case will close is if mother agrees to closing it.
have CMS taken your overnight shared care into account?