Can someone help me, i have 2 children with my ex-wife, my son lives with me full time and my ex-wife pays absolutely nothing to his upbringing. My daughter lives with my ex-wife and I still pay her a monthly maintenance payment for her, also because is has given up her part time job and has gone back on full benefits she now thinks I should also pay for clothes and school uniform for my daughter because she can’t afford to do it. My son is 14 and costs a fortune my wife and I pay for everything he needs and more and never ask for anything. Should I still be paying for my daughter?
What arrangement do you have? Are you paying for your daughter through CMS or court order or family agreement. If your paying though CMS - then you should open a claim for your son right away. Although you will get nothing as she is on benefits it is good to get it in the system.
As for things for your daughter - then that is the moral dilemma your left with. Most good fathers who pay maintenance for their children are challenged by exs saying they can't afford this or that (and it may be true) - but your daughter is your daughter and you dont want her treated any less than your son. So my opinion is yes, you pay your maintenance and you also help with other costs for your daughter. I take it your daughter won't move in with you?
How old is your daughter? Is she old enough for you to pay her an allowance directly? If you are paying for your daughter by agreement then you can check whether you are paying the correct amount on the CMS calculator. That might give you an idea of whether yuor contribution is fair.