For 8yrs my self and my daughters have had to put up with my wife vile mood and her controlling behaviour towards me also domestic violence against me I have had the police out 5 times 3 of them was a waist of time the last two I got crime ref numbers yet to this day they haven’t been and saw her as she says I’m untouchable she told me if I went to the police again she would leave and take my daughters it got very bad I did go to the police they did nothing they wasn’t interested I told them if it was her saying what I was saying I’d be in a cell by now your all a joke and I left feeling let down by them who are there to protect us the out come she left took my daughters not spoke to them for 14weeks now she then went and had a moll order against me all based on lies none of witch she can back up as I was the one being abused not her she also got an order where I had 21 days to get out our house she has been logged into my email a/c and send threats to her self from my a/c so it looks like it’s me I have my email back now and in full control of it I was told by a lawyer a very long time ago to get evidence or it will be my word against hers so I took to work and logged everything voice recordings videos picks of my injuries she gave me I have a doctors letter stating that my depression has been made worse by the domestic abuse my wife was doing also the controlling behaviour it names her as the abuser so what I want to no is can I get the order over turned with what I have I’m also in Lincolnshire and she’s in South Wales I had to come here as my older daughters came and got me from Wales’s before I was put on the streets my wife says I must go though court if I want to see the girls aged 8 . 6 . And 4 my plan is to get visiting my girls then after the 3rd time bring them home here to lincs to be with me and there older sitters then let her fight me for them back witch I would let them go back with out putting up one [censored] of a fight I also have voice recordings of her being vile and threatening to wards them to the point my 6 yr old was made to cry . What would you do if you was me . Thanks for reading my post
Hi There,
I would go down the right route, mediation, then court and apply for custody, I wouldn't just take them, it wouldn't put you in a good light in court and would possibly harm your case.
We always advise to not do anything that will make things harder in the long run, if you play everything by the book, you will have a better chance with the evidence you have of getting the result that you are looking for, taking the children and not returning them, could result in them being removed by the police which isn't good for them or your case.
GTTS
Hi there
Can you check the IP address for the emails she sent?
When are you back in court for the non mol and the occupation order? Have you been asked to file a statement? It's important to supply all the evidence that you have and this can be done by attaching letters and other things to a statement.
GTTS is right in the advice he has given you, it's not a good idea to take the children.
There is nothing in place stopping me from having the girls I’m going to go to court then after my 3 or 4 visits I will be bringing them home where there rooms will be all sorted new beds new bedding new clothes new pjs everything they need I will have in place when I was seeing them they kept asking me to take them home with me because mummy is nasty being on the birth certificates gives me 50/50 rights also the recordings I have of her being Threatening and swearing at them it’s shocking I have videos of her making and smoking weed around the girls my self I’m very boring I don’t drink Booz I don’t smoke cigarettes and I don’t do drugs ..... her on the other end does all of them
If you're determined to keep them, you should at the same time, submit an urgent application for a Prohibited Steps Order and a Child Arrangements Order for the children to live with you. You would need to complete form C100 for both applications and form C1a to tell the court about the risks to your children.
Hi thank you how and where would I get the forms C100 / C1a
C100 -
C1a
I still think it would be unwise to take them and not return them, applying for the above orders is no guarantee you will be successful. It’s very diffucult to get a transferral of residence, and keeping hold of them might not go favourably for you.
Best of luck