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This evening just before bed my son said "Dad, why are you so strict?"
I thought to myself, son you need to go round to some of your friends houses to realise that your daddy is not as strict as you think.
I told him that I do as I say and keep the boundaries in place otherwise as he has proved, it is hard work to bring some behaviour back into line. Thought to myself well at least he is going the way of a normal teen?
So what is a good next step after the circle of carrot/stick of confiscation. Now I am getting "so what" "who cares"
I am just confiscating more and saying no to things he wants. Just feels that it is becoming a battle of wills now.
If he was not my son I would have thrown him out of the house today.
Have never hit him as a form of chastisement, as hated it when my parents hit me and still remember and hate it. So not an option for me, if any suggestion includes such.
Tricky, I think it's a matter of finding the right carrot, and the best stick I have found is taking away the internet, though never had to actually go that far
currently have confiscated the Wii, PSP and virgin tv smart card 😮
His behaviour is lovely with less access to TV and I am planning to return the smart card tomorrow. Will see how it goes.
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