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hi,hope someone can help me. partner recently went to court over his ex changing the childrens school without consent (he has parental responsibility order but also only indirect contact ) the day she was notified of this she took daughter (age 14) to the solicitors. partner has today received a solicitors letter stating 'our instructions are that (daughters name) does not wish to receive any further correspondence from you and sadly is upset by the letters and is distressed that you continue to maintain contact with her' this is absolute madness!i read the letters myself and they are lovely! the ex has also never once,in the last 2 years,complained of such upset either. the letter from the solicitor ends with 'should you be in any doubt of your position we would suggest to you that you consult your solicitors' well i would like to know what exactly is the position?! the letters partner sends are addressed to both children, is my partner really now not allowed to put daughters name on the letter? in all fairness no one says she MUST read it. also the court order is for indirect contact, wouldnt ex need to back to court for this? or do we have to abide by the solicitors letter. this is the only contact he has as is absolutely distraught that this may now be stopped. i myself am furious over it. the parental alienation is sickening! advice HUGELY appreciated x x
this is what i have drafted up in response to the solicitors letter. but darent send it off yet in case im not within my rights!can anyone please let me know if what i have written would be correct and accepted?thanks for reading
Dear Sir/Madam
I received your correspondence dated 11.09.2012 in which it was stated that you had been consulted by my daughter *. * instructs that she longer wishes to receive further correspondence by myself and is sadly upset by my letters and is distressed that I continue to maintain contact with her.
Indirect contact has been successful for the past two years despite the fact that I have only twice received updates regarding my children on just two occasions, both being in the last two months. My letters are addressed to both of my children * and *, rather than individually.
My children were due to change schools recently without my permission. I was asked for my consent just eleven days prior to them starting. The applications were made and the provisions were set for them to begin long before I was contacted. This was not in accordance with the Parental Responsibility Order I have. As a result of this (and the fact that Cafcass has previously made recommendations for them NOT to change schools) I took this matter further. My children were due to start * School on the 11.09.2012 but due to an email I sent on the 10.09.2012 outlining the Cafcass report this was subsequently put on hold. How odd that that the day after being notified of this you receive an instruction to cease indirect contact when it has not caused any distress or upset over the space of two years.
I do not believe that * requested this due to my letters. Furthermore I do not believe that * is distressed that I continue to maintain contact with her. I believe that * has been influenced by her Mother due to the recent proceedings that have taken place. This brings me onto my next issue. Mrs S stated to Judge Middleton that my children were refused entry to Poltair School on the 11.09.2012 and stated the distress this caused both children. This was not disclosed in her statement, nor was it disclosed to me at any point in my telephone contact and subsequent meeting with **** School. On speaking to * School this morning they have confirmed that this incident in fact never happened. It is, as im sure you are aware, a criminal offence to lie in court proceedings. You may wish to inform Mrs S of this.
On this basis I regret to inform you that my letters will continue to be addressed to both * and ****. If * does not wish to read my letters then that it is her right to do so. As it my right to address the letters to both of my children as per my Indirect Contact Order
Hi There,
I would say that what you are stating is correct and that as you have a court order for indirect contact then in order for her to enforce you no longer write letters she would need to return to court for a change to the original order.
Your letter seems well put together and covers what is needed.
I will ask the childrens legal team to just drop by and have a read though just to confirm.
Darren
Dear Ju43
Thank you for your e-mail.
We would be grateful if you would contact us to discuss your matter in more detail.
You can contact us via our webchat facility which can be found at www.childrenslegalcentre.com and is available Monday to Friday 9am to 6pm.
Alternatively you can contact our freephone advice line on 0808 8020 008 which is available Monday to Friday 8am-8pm.
We look forward to hearing from you.
Yours sincerely
CORAM CHILDREN’S LEGAL CENTRE
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