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Advice needed 9 year old doesn't want change

 
(@igc84)
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However my current court order is unsuitable.

 

I see my daughter twice a week one overnight stay one tea time which is fine.

 

However during the holidays this does not increase. My daughter's mam refuses to increase access over the holidays but states my daughter doesn't want anything to change

 

I would like more time during the holidays but I fear the court will hear my daughter say she wants no change and change nothing. Is there anything I can do?

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Topic starter Posted : 17/02/2024 8:30 pm
(@bill337)
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Hi,

How old is your court order? Has your daughter directly expressed any wishes to spend more time with you? 

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Posted : 17/02/2024 10:34 pm

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(@igc84)
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@bill337 

The court order will be 3 years old this summer.

 

My daughter is easily influenced by her mother and hasn't expressed anything to change but would go on holiday with me and would like to 

 

When I have suggested booking a holiday her mother has said yes on the condition she could cancel at anytime if she wasn't comfortable with it.

 

Doesn't exactly give me the confidence to book an expensive holiday as the ex is very unpredictable. 

I do feel like going back to court would be a waste of time and will only be worth pursuing if her mother was to do the unthinkable and cancel a holiday last minute. Cafcas would hear my daughter say she wants nothing to change and go with it. I have zero confidence I would be successful but it's just so unfair as I know my daughter only feels this way because of the barriers her mother puts in place 

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Topic starter Posted : 18/02/2024 12:51 am
(@bill337)
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Hi. I think the arrangements do sound very restrictive for a 9 year old. With courts the norm is generally fri-sun every other weekend, and half of school holiday's, if dad is available and seeks it. I have helped another dad and  child is same age. In his case the judge stated that while 9 year olds wishes carry weight, it is not determinative. 9 year olds don't run the country ( his actual words 🙂

If I was in your shoes I would pursue an increase in time for child. You can self represent, so no expensive legal costs.

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Posted : 18/02/2024 3:52 pm

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