[Solved] Cafcass report

They may ask you to submit a bundle with evidence. If she makes up any further accusations, just raise your hand and say you have messages/evidence to prove this is made up.

with regards to the defamatory claim, you can do something about it but it will cost you big. It will be a civil matter so nothing to do with the child arrangements. I have looked in to this myself as my ex has done the same, been quoted in the region of £20k to deal with such a case. Not really worth it, as the women have all the power when it comes to the kids, she will just stop you seeing them because of your decision to take her to court.

hi Harry,

its good cafcass are not involved any more. means no safeguarding issues. just a trouble making ex. hope it goes well for you. keep us updated.

Thanks Bill

I’m not surprised at her allegations as she’s relying on the system to fight her corner. The cafcass outcome is good as we had some issues with my son at school which they tried to blame me for but after speaking to me took no further action. Good that cafcass back this up

I have 3 nights a week at the moment and am asking for half the school holidays which just makes more sense and is far easier to arrange.

Cafcass say if we can’t agree at the FHDR to have a contested hearing but can’t really see what difference that will make to be honest except kicking the can down the road a bit more.

The allegations I kicked her are ludicrous. Last Christmas she asked if I wanted to go round to her house for hot choc, In May she offered to come to my house to discuss the kids 1:1 and I’m frequently pulled into her house when I pick the kids up, she’s never asked me not to. These don’t concur with me being dangerous!

In some ways I look forward to Wednesday though know her approach will be to try and discredit me.

Hi Bill

Ex arrived at court for FHDR with her solicitor. About 10 mins before my court hearing solicitor made me the offer of every other weekend and nothing in between. Given I currently have 3 nights a week you can imagine my reaction. Apparently as I don’t pick up from school then they felt I shouldn’t have weekday time as it was just a couple of hours before bed, forgetting i then do school run the following morning.
Anyway they ignored my position statement completely. Her solicitor had drafted a position statement full of comments that are factually incorrect.

Save to say full hearing on 3rd March 2020

I am tempted to reduce my working hours and go for 50:50 as that would deal with all their points about I should have less as I don’t do school pick ups. I guess their response would be that I’m doing that to reduce maintenance and her solicitor already accused me of that today on the current shared care arrangements.

Can I change my share parenting request for the full hearing? It would totally be aimed at dealing with all their concerns and therefore there would be no ability for them to deny this new position

hi Harry,

thats unfortunate. as theres no safeguarding issues with you and the kids, things supposed to go easy in court. but what can you do with idiotic opponents in court. its good you rejected their silly offer of every other weekend only. your already getting more then that, so how can you accept less lol.

my arrangement is basic. every other weekend. i pick up kids from school on the friday and on the mid-week (just few hours every other week). i can get to kids school/home in 30 mins from work/home so not so bad. with me, cafcass did not recommend mid-week overnights in their report, so i was stuck more or less. its been a year and i am back in court end of jan, hopefully to get a better arrangement with kids.

your ex is already being so obstructive. i think getting 50/50 will be difficult. if your job is flexible enough, then it could work. just don't make your life so difficult or agree to something you will later regret. you should bring this up at your 2nd hearing.

Bill

Thanks for the reply

My ex and I live a mile apart and it’s about the same distance to school

They would have let me have every other weekend and a weds if i said I’d pick the kids up from school. So if school pick ups is what they want to see then I’ll sort that then no argument remains why I shouldn’t have 50:50

I have Fri/Sat/Sun, Weds/Thurs and following Monday so just need to add the Tuesday following the Monday and then I can also do their swimming lessons. Their beef was that picking them up at 5.30 wasn’t quality time but my kids, son especially, would be distraught if he didn’t see me so often.

I can easily do as much as their mum so no real barrier to 50:50

I think the next is the final it’s pencilled in for 6 hours

hi,

another dad on here does fri/sat/sun/mon with school drop in morning. and wed/thur every week with school runs. you could consider something like that too. i will ask for something like this. ex will say oh i am taking away her bank holidays. i will say shut up, you have all the school holidays minus 1 or 2 weeks :p