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hi Harry,
thats unfortunate. as theres no safeguarding issues with you and the kids, things supposed to go easy in court. but what can you do with idiotic opponents in court. its good you rejected their silly offer of every other weekend only. your already getting more then that, so how can you accept less lol.
my arrangement is basic. every other weekend. i pick up kids from school on the friday and on the mid-week (just few hours every other week). i can get to kids school/home in 30 mins from work/home so not so bad. with me, cafcass did not recommend mid-week overnights in their report, so i was stuck more or less. its been a year and i am back in court end of jan, hopefully to get a better arrangement with kids.
your ex is already being so obstructive. i think getting 50/50 will be difficult. if your job is flexible enough, then it could work. just don't make your life so difficult or agree to something you will later regret. you should bring this up at your 2nd hearing.
Bill
Thanks for the reply
My ex and I live a mile apart and it’s about the same distance to school
They would have let me have every other weekend and a weds if i said I’d pick the kids up from school. So if school pick ups is what they want to see then I’ll sort that then no argument remains why I shouldn’t have 50:50
I have Fri/Sat/Sun, Weds/Thurs and following Monday so just need to add the Tuesday following the Monday and then I can also do their swimming lessons. Their beef was that picking them up at 5.30 wasn’t quality time but my kids, son especially, would be distraught if he didn’t see me so often.
I can easily do as much as their mum so no real barrier to 50:50
I think the next is the final it’s pencilled in for 6 hours
hi,
another dad on here does fri/sat/sun/mon with school drop in morning. and wed/thur every week with school runs. you could consider something like that too. i will ask for something like this. ex will say oh i am taking away her bank holidays. i will say shut up, you have all the school holidays minus 1 or 2 weeks :p
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