I have been seeing my two children regularly on specific days and myself and the children are settled in the routine but my ex has all of a sudden said she wants to change this just because it suits her and her new partner
I have filed a court access to keep the same routine we have had for nearly two years
I have got evidence from
My employer stating my work hours and this fits around mine and the children's current routine and not my ex partners proposed change to the routine
Anyone got any ideas what could happen in court would they make me and the children change are current routine
hi,
its difficult to tell what can happen in court. its possible they would like to keep original arrangements in place. but as your ex disagrees and making changes, then be expected to compromise with her. give and take. its better if you are seen as the reasonable one, and are open to changes as long as its fair to both parties, and interests of children. when i was in court, i was told by lawyer and cafcass, thats is better for both parents to agree on things, instead of making judge decide. because the judge could order something that both or one of you won't be happy with.
Hi and thank you for your reply
I have tried to compromise by saying let's keep the routine plus If u ever wanted to take them out on a Saturday that is fine with me I would never stop her I think the most important thing is the children and there routine
This is all the children have knew since we split up
I have looked for a new job but was offered a new job but I had to work every Saturday to which I turned it down because that doesn't fit into are routine and even the one she wants
what i would suggest at court is be firm and very decisive about what you want. im one of those people that find it difficult to say no. at court i felt pressured into accepting things. so i said yes i can pick up kids from school on the friday i have the kids aswell as mid week visit. i did not like it after and hated myself. but am sticking with it (ex leaving me no choice lol). its 30 min commute from work or home to get kids. so not that bad.
I have my children on two midweek visits aswel
My ex is manipulating this to suit herself with no thought about the kids
She also rang csa saying I have never paid her maintenance and requested a collect and pay I had to send all proof to csa to prove I had which satisfied the csa and kept the same payments method
Csa sent me a detailed document stating what she had said to them and about the proofs I sent to
Them
Just goes to prove how much of a liar she is
Even still she Denys she rang csa