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Hi everyone - new to this forum so thanks for your help.
Since breaking up with my partner last year, we've had an agreement regarding custody and maintenance for my 2 year olf daughter which has worked well. All the advice seems to say that sorting it out between parents is quicker, better, cheaper etc. than going through the legal system. My question however is - should things go wrong (ie she stops me from seeing my daughter for whatever reason) what rights do I have? Nothing is in writing, nothing has been signed so what processes would I need to go through to sort this out if she's being unreasonable? At the moment I have no reason to believe that this will happen, but in the future... who knows?
Cheers,
Tom
Thanks for that - I just feel that if I were to go to court, solicitor, mediator etc. now, it could potentially cause problems where currently there aren't any which is why I need to know what my next step would be IF anything changed and she stopped me from seeing my daughter, and also how long a court process would take from the day she stops me from seeing her, to the day I'm allowed to see her again.
Hi there and welcome 🙂
I think its great that you are both able to work together for the benefit of your child. I think that this is probably the case for the majority of parents that have split...There are some sad stories on here of Dads that are seperated from their kids and denied access, but I do believe it is a minority.
If in the future you find yourself in a similar situation as those on here your first step would be Mediation...if that fails then its on to Court as Basszebra says. Heres a link to the Mediation Service, but lets hope you never need it!
www.nfm.org.uk
In a way, this is actually quite easy to answer - if it isn't broken, then don't try to fix it.
However, I would advise you to keep a diary of all contact, and take plenty of pictures. If it ever does become a problem, going to court to ask that the existing level of contact be continued (if she ever makes it difficult) is much easier if you can prove what the current level of contact is, and keeping the diary is something she never needs to know about if it continues to go well.
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