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[Solved] Ex has started Family Court proceedings

Dec · 2019-12-11T02:43:02Z

I never thought this day would actually come but here it is. I'm a full time father to my 4 year old son and have been since I split with my ex 20 months ago. When I split up with her she immediately went and found another guy and left the child with me. She didnt give a crap about seeing our child as she was more interested in the bloke. I would travel 30 miles to take him to see her only for her to make her excuses to leave after 5 minutes so she could get back to her bloke and that's how it reminded until Xmas last year. Her contact with him was very patchy,she would promise to call but never would and would then come up with ridiculous excuses as to why she didnt call as promised. I invited her and her mum over on Xmas day evening as that's also our sons birthday, her mum is a specialised foster carer by the way. They then proceeded to ruin the day by kicking off and they kept asking him if he wanted to go with them even tho he kept saying no. Never less she then had him on boxing day to take him to a family get together, I insisted I attend for the 1st hour to make him feel comfortable. I agreed to this on the condition that she called him 2-3 times a week, if only for 5 minutes. I made it very clear this was her last chance. She stuck to the phone calls promise once and I remember my son crying himself to sleep because she didnt stick to her promise and came up with another lame excuse. It was then that I had to say enough is enough, this on off contact was damaging my son, he wasnt sleeping, he was kicking me, biting me, punching me and letting all his anger and frustration out on me. It was real hard for him, he didnt understand why his mother was not sticking to her promises. All I could do was comfort him and give him reassurances. Day by day he forgot about her and his behaviour improved. He started school this September and he is absolutely thriving. He is like w completely different child. He is just a normal happy little boy now. Our son was on a protection plan by default of her elder child being on a plan due to issues with his father. It took social services a while to see what she was actually like. Around February time I agreed with social services she could have him every friday night, on the condition she went and saw a solicitor and got an agreement drawn up, I even offered to pay half. She didnt do that, her excuse was that she didnt want to go through solicitors but I was insistent based on her history of not letting her elder child see his father where she breached so many court orders that the judge then sent the elder child to live with his father. She then got the child back by fabricating that the father had sexually abused the child and got him to say that to the police and social services. I hope your starting to see why I gave huge concerns about her having contact with our son. She then gave birth to a new baby, and I didnt hear from her for a few months which was great. Her and her new partner continued to have a on off relationship and it transpired every time she asked to see our child, was during a period where they had split up. I had her turning up ag my door banging it etc. I recieved harassment from her and her mum during these periods and the police would do nothing, even when she sent a text threatening to kick my door down and telling me u should be scared of her, they did fuck all. Didnt even speak to her! Every day I live in fear because of those threats, I struggle to get a full nights sleep because every noise wakes me up. Her new baby was put on a protection plan for reasons I dont know. My son no longer has social services involvement as they were satisfied i had done all i could to provide contact. She then permanently split up with her partner then I had days of her banging on my door begging me to let her see him. I explained to her if I were to allow her it would have to be in a contact centre as she is effectively a stranger to my child, she needs to be reintroduced and at the same time she needs to prove herself, plus I do reserve concerns as to why her child is on a protection plan. I forgot to mention, when her baby was born, she then sent her elder child to live with the father that she had previously denied contact to and made up those allegations. She has attempted to turn up at school a few times to just collect him but the school have refused due to the fact it would cause him distress as he doesn't know her, they have threatened to call the police and then she goes away. She has failed to provide for him at all I have asked her to buy things like school jumpers etc, she refuses because I dont let her see him! I feel so angry that after all the chances shes been given that she has taken me to court, it defies belief. What I really want to ask Is this, I have aspergers syndrome so representing myself in court could be quite difficult because of my condition, I dont think I'll be able to represent myself effectively, is it worth trying to apply fo...

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Dec 14, 2019 1:46 am

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lol sounds like shes digging a hole for herself. crafty to way to get an urgent hearing. hopefully you can resolve this asap and can enjoy the holiday period with your child.

i see on application form there is also option for a 'Without notice' hearing. imagine if that happened. WT..!! haha

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