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newdad5
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Hi, Following extensive proceedings overs 2 years a final order was made in February which in the main was very positive. 

The first problem has been encountered after the child moved from nursery to pre school. The order states that I should collect from nursery at 4pm in line with the child’s previous hours. She is now in pre school and will be moving to school where she finishes at 3.25. I have suggested I pick her up at 3.25. Instead mum has insisted on our child going to after school club until 4pm on the days I pick her up. Just another way of attempting to control the arrangements and restrict the time I spend with our child. 

In the grand scheme of things I appreciate this is not a massive issue but clearly the order was not drafted to make it that the child had to attend after school club. Is there anyway of attempting to amend this without further proceedings? 

Thanks

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Topic starter Posted : 21/04/2021 4:43 am
Yoda
 Yoda
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No court would have intended that your child should go to after school club for 35 minutes when there is a parent available to collect her. 

If the mother doesn't agree, you could try a solicitor's letter as otherwise, the only option is court. A court won't be happy that you're back within a couple of months for something that hasn't happened yet. 

Perhaps it's worth leaving it for now (assuming you're talking about this happening in September) and dealing with it closer to the time? 

 

 

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Posted : 21/04/2021 8:26 am
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newdad5
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@yoda thanks for your reply. My child started at present school on Monday and won’t start school until September 2022. The pre school finish time is the same as the school and therefore she’s going to after school club currently instead of me picking her up. Mums taken the decision to pay for this rather than me pick her up 

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Topic starter Posted : 21/04/2021 11:35 am
warwickshire1
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I would probably let it ride for now. Unfortunately when you had court order done you should of had the times taken off . So instead of 4pm pick up it would say pick up from nursery/school instead. Then you could just pick up your child as normal and decision would be yours wether your child attends after school club or not.

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Posted : 23/04/2021 2:26 pm
Yoda
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Although I hate to say it, I would probably let it ride for now too. I'm sure the court intention was for you to collect straight from school, but seems mum has other ideas. 

You 'could' chat to the school about collecting at finish time as you have PR but it could open a can of worms with the mother. 

Really feel for you. It seems such a small amount of time but it shouldn't be being controlled in that way. 

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Posted : 23/04/2021 3:11 pm
actd
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I would let this ride for now. You are still getting the same amount of time as when the order was made, so she hasn't cut your contact, so she's paying out now for you to have the same amount of contact - she may get rather fed up with that after a while, since you have no obligation at all to contribute towards this cost. 

I would give her the impression that it's fine by you, so she doesn't think she's getting one over on you, and hopefully, in a while, she'll have a rething.

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Posted : 01/05/2021 12:08 pm
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