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my partner is in a terrible mess! it is now the 7th year he has not seen his son. the system was played by his devious ex and her lying solicitor! this is what I can only describe has unjust!! the case of my partner came to an end 2years ago after 5years of going to court and now with him just being left with indirect contact. Because when he did have direct contact with is son traps was set up on him by coaching the child to say lies about my partner such has he his very aggressive towards the child and saying the child wets the bed because of it, my partner wasn’t even allowed to give is side of things It was all one sided plus he had very poor representation and Not even a fact finding hearing or a contested hearing. I feel if my partner was given the opportunity to put his side of things across he could of cleared his name because of plenty of loop holes. My partner his suffering from clinical depression since his case ended 2years ago and sometimes he feels suicidal also he has what he describes has a huge build up of anger and he feels like taking the law into in own hands. I am wondering if they could be a way back into the system on grounds of unfair treatment?? I would be grateful having some views off here please has I’m very concerned for the well being of my partner.
Thank You.
My advice is to forget the injustices of the past and to look about what can be done in the future. I was told by my solicitor years ago that it is always open for either parent to go back to court at any time to try to get a contact order changed, though if it is done too regularly with no real prospect of change, then the courts don't like their time being wasted.
However, after such a long gap since contact, I would certainly not expect a court to consider this to be a waste of time, so your partner should definitely try for increased contact. My opinion here is that he should be going for long term supervised contact at a contact centre - that way his ex will have a much harder time arguing that any harm could come to his son - generally supervised contact is only intended to be for a few months before moving on, but I would say that your partner may be best arguing that he wants it to continue indefinitely as a protection for him as much as for his son.
Have a read of yoji's guide to representing yourself at the top of the legal eagle section - for 200 court fee he can represent himself, and there are no other expenses.
One more thing, he is going to need a lot of support, as there are likely to be knocks along the way- sounds like you are there to help, and we're certainly her to support him (and you) with this.
Thank you for responding/actd
The problem is my partner has recently been to court with a fresh application and cafcass said they will not support direct contact at this time. but will in a years time after a years worth of indirect contact. so he was forced to withdraw the application. Now the concern is that cafcass said that next year they will interview my partners son to see his wishes and feelings. the problem is my partners ex has a years worth of brainwashing ahead of seeing cafcass and could even move address.
Thanks.
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