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Being the sceptical untrusting person my ex has turned me in to…..and being aware of a holiday that my ex had arranged for during school term time, I decided that during the second week of the claimed holiday I would have a quick chat with my son’s primary school about his attendance this term.
At the last (final) hearing his mother via the barrister said that they had a holiday for two weeks booked in September and therefore there would be no contact for on 14th & 21st Sept.
So after the hearing I’d get the next nearest 2 Saturdays, then miss 2 Saturdays, then get each Saturday after that.
I must admit with the past lies in court by my ex and my total lack of trust of her the sceptic inside me did initially doubt this was going to be true but didn’t question it much in front of the judge. However with the proof I’ve just got from the school I’m really unsure what to do with what I have found out.
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School attendance for September 2013 – Child not at school 4 days since start of this term -dates child has missed school and excuses given for these are:
Friday 13th / Mon 16th & Tues 17th – School explanation “Unauthorised Holidays”
Weds 18th - School explanation “ mother told school child was ill that day”
Child returned to School Thurs 19th & Fri 20th and he was also in school on Mon 23rd Sept.”
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As (child) was at school Thurs 19th, Fri 20th and Mon 23rd Sept. the ex has again deliberately lied to and deceived the court yet again and in my opinion only to break up the regular weekly contact between (child) and I.
Baring in mind I’ve seen my little one two Saturdays following the court final hearing and then missed two because of the above……I should be back to weekly (Saturdays) contact and following the timetable for increasing the hours from 5.5 now to 6.5 by mid-Oct. to 7.5 by mid-Nov. and extra days/ over nights from beginning of December onwards.
Should I write to court and potentially stir things up again?
Should I keep this on the back burner and wait to use it should she refuse to extend/increase contact or even fail to make child available for contact.
Decisions…decisions….hmmm.
I'd be tempted to hold fire on this and keep it on the back burner to use later. As you suspect she may well continue to breach the order by refusing to increase contact or indeed to prevent it altogether, it would have greater impact and be considered more serious as a "job lot" if you know what I mean.
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