Hello, and thank you for reading this. I am looking for advice having to do with separating from my ex and leading up to establishing custody. It has already been getting rocky because she has started doing things like staying out all night without saying she wouldn't be back to the house we live in or just leaving in the middle of the night without saying anything. We are still sharing this residence for two more weeks, but things are getting stickier. She moved a new guy in to the house with my and our daughter. He is an alcoholic who is drinking heavily so I removed alcohol that I had bought from the house. Ex accused me of stealing alcohol from her, tried to throw me out and then called the police to have them throw me out and they told her it was a civil matter. I am kind of looking for advice for going forward to protect my daughter and myself. I have been documenting everything as factually as possible. Thank you fir you time.
Hi,
I think your doing right thing by documenting incidents. Try to keep distance from your ex. Are you seeking 50/50 custody? I recommend this group from the states: divorced dad with kids: https://m.facebook.com/groups/320844451641660/
Thank you for your response. I am seeing 50/50 but would happily take her full time if her mom decides she wants to play a smaller role. I have started the process to join the group that you recommended. Thank you again.
You could contact social services if she is going to be living with this man after you move out. There seems to be a safeguarding issue. You could also contact the school to make them aware of the situation.
Thank you for the response. I can’t believe I forgot to include this. My daughter is only 1 year old on the 15th. She can’t speak or tell anyone what is happening. It seems she is intending to live with him. Her story has changed repeatedly from he’s going to sleep on the couch to he just passed out in the bed but we aren’t doing anything to she likes to cuddle to they are living together. That change happened over a week. She said he couldn’t stay if he was drinking too he is obviously drinking and she refuses to make him live elsewhere. I have consultations coming up with two attorneys. Do you think this is sufficient reason to contact social services? What would the draw backs to that be?
If that man is still living in the house when you leave, then you can ask social services/Early Help for support. Your daughter is very young and shouldn't be exposed to drunken behaviour. There could be the possibility that your ex goes out and leaves him with your daughter. I don't see any drawbacks in expressing your concerns to social services.
