[Solved] Is it time to give in ?

i read that entire story and not once did i think you were to blame. times a healer buddie and when your sons old enough [censored] come and find you. thats a fact. and when you get that chance to have a chat dont hold back and tell him how much of a [censored] his mother has been. thinking only of herself and not her beloved son. chin up buddie theres always light at the end of the tunnel

Hi az546

I've read your post too and before I even start to answer anything on the post I want to say we are here to help and listen, the who's and where's of anything although they matter they don't matter right now at this moment.

The most important thing at the moment is you and your state of mind/health.

You haven't let anyone down, you have worked your hardest to be a dad to your son.

I have been where you are now, sat in a bedroom at my folks house where I lived before my life really started feeling like it had ended again. There are lots of ways to help and hopefully you will talk to us and let us help you.

Keep talking and I will try and help as best I can.

GTTS

Hi az546,

You sound really down at the moment.

Can I just say that you have in no way let your son down - It sounds to me like you have fought for him all the way. He is lucky to have a dad who loves him so much that he has battled through all those challenges for him.

GTTS is right though, at the moment the most important thing is you. Could you reply so that we know you are ok?

Thanks
Looking forward to chatting with you.

Gooner.

az546,

Please check your private messages...top right...small blue writing...

Regards,

Dave

xxx

Hi AZ,

Thanks for answering us, and glad you don't feel so alone.

A lot of us have been where you are now and I wish I had been a member on this forum when I was as I know it would have helped.

I'm glad you have spoken to your doctor as again that will help.

You don't have to put on a brave face here we are all here for support and guidence, The road ahead will be tough but we can try and help you through it as best we can.

Is there anything you need right now to help?

GTTS

Hi az546,

Thanks for responding.

It's great that you are speaking with your GP. As things have seemed to come to a head today and because your mood seems lower today it might be an idea to pop back again. You really wouldn't be wasting the GP's time and it might be good to talk things through further with him/her.

You are not alone - there are a lot of dads here who will be more than happy to chat about anything with you. Many will have experienced a similar situation to you.

Keep talking.
Gooner

xxx

Hi there az

Having just read your story it has bought me to tears...I just want to reach out to you and help in anyway I can.

I completely get it....the way you have been treated is enough to knock the strongest of us down. I feel your pain and I want to help... The guys here are fantastic and you will get the support you need. I don't think now is the time to talk about contact, as you acknowledge you arent ready for the next bout, but you know with help from the doctor and the advice and support here, you will be, but you need to get a little stronger first.

Things may seem bleak at the moment but it won't stay like this, you can get through this....

The mother has proven what she wants and has lied to achieve it, do you think she would be upset that you have been so badly effected by it....I think not, I think she would be happy and would think she has won. Don't let that be the case, the best revenge you could possible take would be to turn this around, to get back on your feet,to build up your strengths and to fight back.

Right now you need to keep talking to us, you are not alone and now you are amongst people who have walked where you have, and have experienced the same despair.... We understand just what's at stake and we will stand by your side and fight your fight with you if you'll let us...

Nannyjane

Please look in your Private Message box .

Hi az you have touched us all with your story, I would say never give up, but NJ is right, for now you have to concentrate on you.
Having being through one contact case we as a family were in bits , going through 3 must be a living nightmare and how ever much you try to keep the emotions at bay its impossible
We all have stories but right now its not about us its about you, I will briefly tell you my brother was in the same position as you and he hit rock bottom , we feared he would take his own life , he threatened to do so , with help and guidance he came through and 18 months later he was strong enough again to fight the evil [censored] his ex, he was awarded contact in a contact centre he didn't object he went along with what ever they wanted. Fat forward a bit he now has his 3 children every two weeks , he is in a loving relationship and enjoying life , he is happy again. You will get to this stage, right now you wont think so as every bit of fight has been drained from you. Take one day at a time..

Hi Az,

How are you doing this morning. Just wanting to check up on you.

Gooner

Hi I have read your ploblems and it is heart rendering I wish u success in your right to see your kids
Its about time caffcass are accounted for and stop being biased against the fathers
Its about time law changed to give fathers equal rights
Please keep in contact with this fantastic site which has help me as well

Have just read this, and it's horrendous, but it's not the end. There's a lot of good advice, and ultimately, you need to be in the best possible shape to take on the challenges ahead of you, so get out an about, maybe go to the gym, and make sure you are looking after your physical needs, and once that is on it's way, you'll start to feel better about yourself, which will help you to deal with the emotional stuff.

It's not an easy journey, as you have already found out, and there will be setbacks, but if you can pick yourself up, and keep moving forward,, it will be worth it.

xxx

As well as removing all names it might be a good idea to hide the posts from guests, so that only members can read it. Have you thought about using an MF? I know it's short notice but I may be able to get one sorted...I would try my damnedest anyway!

Great to hear from you Az....I must admit I've been a little worried about you......that's what I do! I had a sneaking feeling you're made of sterner stuff though!

I'm going to private message you....I bet you've got a few of those in your inbox! Anyway keep an eye on your inbox.

Maybe edit out the court location that you mention in the above post.

xxx

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[hide][/hide]found it....thanks NJ...good to know....Dave

[hide] Sorry for the confusion i think it would be best if i close this thread and will create a new one regards the items i have discussed. [/hide]