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Basically my ex has been away for a week with my daughter and I have not received a single text about my daughters well being as my ex said I wouldn't after I requested here to text a few times when they where away. Ie when they landed then after a week or so and when they where back.
My ex has agreed I can have my daughter on the Sunday after they return next Saturday afternoon.
But my blood is boiling, do I apply for mediation now or do I ride the storm as not to inflame the situation and see if things settle back down once she is back, we had just started overnight access so things where looking up until her new fella assaulted me.
Since then my ex has been friendly to my face but awkward via text and email although she has said I can see my daughter as regular as I did before the assault by her new fella.
Just the lack of any information about my daughter is killing me, I just want a quick text to say @@@@ is fine.
I can image how your feeling. Its tough just waiting and not knowing.
Im inclined to say just sit tight mate.
Stick to the plan and dont give her any room to criticise especialy as she may use it as an excuse to deny your recently agreed overnight contact.
Regards,
Dave
Thanks Dave I'm inclined to agree, it's only 2 weeks a mere drop in the ocean compared to what you unfortunate Dad,s have to put up with.
It's a shame though her controlling behaviour is changing me as sometimes I just want to cause her the same pain she causes me, be that through reporting her for benefit fraud or taking her through the courts.
Think that's called cutting your nose of to spite your face though as I will make things even more difficult for myself plus more importantly to me (and I know fraud is wrong) but if my bitter ex is paying back the money I believe she owes it will be my daughter who misses out on nice things.
I can sympathise with the desire for revenge and Id be the last to criticise.
That said, chose your battles and if that means reporting her or taking her to court...do it when it suits you.
Regards,
Dave
Thanks Dave
Hopefully court will never happen for everyone's sake but mainly my Daughters.
The benefit fraud will be reported though when the time is right. Revenge being a dish best served cold springs to mind. Thanks again.
Regards justme
Hi There,
I think your right to sit tight,
If you stir the nest too much it could cause more issues in the long run, if you get to the point of needing to go to court then as said go when it suits and not to seek revenge.
I would though as good practice keep a journal of problems that have happened dates times and details ect so that you have evidence should you end up in court.
It is so tempting to look towards revenge but it's a quick fix rather than a long term answer to the issue (even it it does make you feel good 😉 )
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