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Hi Guys,
Right i finally have mediation arranged for tomorrow.
I know i need to cover access to my 3 children (I proposed everyother weekend for 2 nights, + 1 weeknight) and finance payments for them (proposing £400 month - CSA advised £490 - but this wouldnt be sustainable for me, due to the amount of commuting i have to do)
But, can you advise on any other issues i should also cover? The ex already has our rented home, and the family car. I have no savings to offer out either.
To date, she is still not be honest about the guy shes been seeing for thelast 6 months, even though she has asked me to come home several times, as a delaying tactic for legal intervention, which is now affecting the way we communicate.
Advise greatly recieved.
Hi
Sorry, this seems to have been missed, and presumably it's happened now - how did you get on?
Yes sorry we missed this akburnham....I'm hoping you had a good mediator that was able to assist you. As actd says, how did it go?
Hi,
Well had the firtst session last tuesday, where we covered access. (2nights everyother weekend and an evening every week)
This tuesday we are covering finance, in prinicple the ex has agreed already to £400 month. CSA recommend £490.
I get the feeling she is just going through the motions at the moment though, saying the right things but not really treating things serioulsy.
Hopefully signed off this weekend, thing ill be starting a fixed fee divorce, as there shouldnt be anything to argue about.
In reality, im still stuck with having to deal with this person for the next 10 years or so, not for one moment she will acually behave long term...
You could think about getting the agreement on contact written into a consent order which could then be rubber stamped in court, or a solicitor can put a legally binding document together that you would both sign.
It might be worth trying to discuss extra time during holidays and shared special occasions and having that written in too?
Good luck for tomorrow.
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