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I have recently been informed my ex is moving away from the family area with my daughter which i'm not happy about.
She has said that i will still have contact with her but its how she proposes to do it is what worries me.
She is on about putting her on a train on her own on a Friday afternoon after school to Nottingham station for me to collect her!
I'm not putting my girl down but she has a very short attention span and also a weak bladder and my concerns are that she will be up and down to the loo and also could get distracted by certain types of individuals and something happen to her!
Am i being too paranoid in thinking the worst?
Also, i pay her CSA every month and have my girl overnight 2 nights per week but can she claim more money from me if i don't see her so often even though its her decision to move away?
I really am struggling to make ends meet as it is.
If someone could advise me on this i would appreciate it as this in doing my head in.
Hi and welcome
I wouldn't be at all happy about a 9 year old girl travelling alone on a train, and I'm not sure whether it's legal, and the train company may also have rules about what is or isn't permitted.
With regards to the maintenance, if you currently have your maintenance reduced by 2/7th because your daughter is staying with you 2 nights per week, then your ex could claim increased maintenance.
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