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I was wondering could any1 help me. i recently split with my girlfriend we have a son 16 months, we had a break up over money and she wanted me to leave the residence. she was claiming housing benefit while i was paying for all the maintenance. i wasnt on the the lease for the house but i was having all my mail delievered there as i was living there and didnt think this day would ever come. she took a non-mol order out on me and told police that i broke in a caused criminal damage, of which there was no proof as the said accusation never took place as i had my own copy of the door key. which i handed over to police. she then went on to say that i broke in and stole the key.
I had police escort me to the house were i picked up my belongings, only thing is she knew i had a bag that contained all my letters may of which were addressed to that house. before i got to the house with police she took the bag and destroyed these letters, probably the only proof i have that i was living there and in fact she has been makin false allegations in order to get me to leave the premises.
Is there any other way to prove that i was living there without having these letters.
bear in mind im not registered at the house with doctors, dentist ext, only with my old bank, virgin tv, and my old dept managment plan.
would appriciate some feed back please.
Can you contact them and ask them for a letter stating between such and such dates all our mail to you was sent to this address, and ask them for an example, like an old bank statemet.
would they not send them letters to her address. if i get them sent to my new address my exs address wont be on the letter.
You can request copies from all f these providers and give them a new address to send to. You can go into your old bank and ask for copies of backdated statements and pick them up in branch.
Surely if the police escorted you to retrieve your belongs that alone indicates that you had been living there?
they had to escort me as there was a non mol order in place and she had to let me into the house.
the police officer was sound about the whole thing, pretty much said that they knew i was living there but that she was trying to cover her back (not in so many words)as i will letting the courts know shes been committing housing benefit fraud as well as benefit fraud.
she actually told police that the only reason i wanted into the house was to see my son, which the cop replied "he is the childs father im sure he does want to see him". its plainly obvious that shes trying to cover her own tracks and to get back me she wont let me see my son not even a call to let me know how hes doing. Considering theres no domestic violence in the relationship i find this hard to take. She said that i have a criminal record which i do but its been over 7years since ive been in trouble with the law and we started going out when my court case was drawing to an end. she waited on me till my sentence was ove and we stayed together 6 years after this.
sorry for boring anyone with this post but im that pissed off i need to tell someone.
Not a problem - it's good to have a rant sometimes, and it's better doing it on here rather than somewhere you'd regret 🙂
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