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hi i need a bit of help please anyone??
my daughter is 7 and i have been seperated from her mother for a while now,but ive bin my doctors with feeling down lately so hes put me on the sick
problem is ive told my ex partner all this and now she says she dont think im in the right state of mind to see my little girl and has now stopped me from seing her
my name is on her birth certificate and she also has my second name
does anyone know if she has the right to do this????
mrduncarnos…….. I’d say you’re in a similar position to the guy who started this post……you could do with legal advice, try speaking with CORAM (CLC) they are linked on this site….give them a call to find out what you ought to do first step.
Obviously hindsight is a wonderful thing and your ex has obviously pounced on the first chance to prevent contact.
Try writing to her explaining that it is simply the stress of the situation that you needed to take time out to ensure you could be there better for the kids as you were not able to put 100% into your work.
There was a post somewhere about stress versus depression….i’d do a quick search for that and have a read of it.
I’m not ashamed to say it now that i went to the docs 2yrs ago when a year after I split from my ex contact went from amicable weekly contact to her cutting all contact as and when she liked and then when I took the legal route all manner of false allegations started coming out of her mouth that I had to start defending myself against…
that was the worst I’ve ever felt and even though I could prove her to be a liar it took months and months….it got me so low I was struggling at work…getting ratty and very short tempered with everyone around me friends as well as colleagues…..
Everyone who knew me knew that something was wrong…I bottled it all up so long and then burst in to tears one day at work having just exploded on my boss for his insensitivity towards my situation fighting to see my son…….i walked straight out to the car and drove up to the doctors as I felt I had no control over my emotional state.
Being a 6’2” tall… ex-rugby player “mans-man” type of guy I thought I’d lost the plot….it was only talking it through with a very kind female GP that I realised I wasn’t losing the plot I was just having to deal with so much going on that the stress was just building up too much.
The GP signed me off for a month….and yes I sat at home a lot stewing about stuff but I also started to be more active….get out of my surroundings and got out on the mountain bike, took the dog for longer walks….started doing a little bit more DIY around the house etc…
More to take my mind of things but also when out on the bike or walking the dog I was able to think about different things other than my son.
Its easy for me to sit here and say Mtfu – Man the f – up…..but a kick in the [censored] works for some…others it makes things worse.
If you’re on medication do not mention that to your ex…
Try putting your focus on to other parts of your life and look at the positives, we here can help with the support and advice from our experiences.
Keep your chin up pal.
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